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    Attraction

    Are you attracted to your femme self? I know it seems a strnge question but do you find yourself a turn on when dressed?
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    Nicky,
    There's the thread running at the moment about AGP . I thought it translated as loving yourself as a woman , but Reine suggests to be sexually aroused when dressed as a woman. Whatever being dressed and AGP are part of the feelings along with a need to present my female side, my turn on is to be attracted to and accepted by a woman .
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    Thats an easy answer Nicole, Yes. Part of this for me has always been to emulate something I dont have in my life. Yes this behavior can and does replace a woman and if you dont think they realize that you are short sighted. I have had this conversation with a GG from here. I will add I dont necessarily buy things anymore for that purpose. I buy what I think looks good on me to represent a look I want to show. I also own shoes and clothes for comfort.
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    I believe I dress to how I want to see a women dressed.

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    Attracted, yes. Turned on, no.

    Maria said exactly what I wanted to say.

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    I would be lying if i said i did not do it partly as a turn on, as a lonely bachelor, to dress up like the lady i wish i had.

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    I'm attracted to good looking women and their clothing is part of that attraction. I don't find myself (dressed) nearly as attractive as the lovely GGs in this world, but to be sexually attractive is the reason I dress.
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    When I was younger, I used to become aroused trying on different outfits, lingerie, etc. Not so much, anymore. I do seem, though, to have to have a fascination with buying bras and shoes every once in a while even though I don't need them.

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    Maybe I am attracted to the idea of my femme self. I do crossdress in part for the sexual thrill.🌺

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    My transformation goal is to create the look that the guy I am likes. The more successful I am, the greater the attraction. In past years and decades of trying different looks, I have failed miserably and succeeded mightily. Now I know what looks I like, so my success rate is high. Definitely attracted.

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    i also get turned on when I dress. Attracted to myself is still questionable

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    Part of me wishes my femme self were more sexually attractive; I do get turned on when I crossdress, but credit remains due to the sensation and the connotation of the garments as much as my image and arguably my inflated self perception. To add to this, I had a period of wearing garments meant to be sexy, adding to the nubile image I wished to portray.

    I wouldn't consider myself hot though, well not now.

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    Never really gave it much thought but thinking about it I would have to say no on both counts.

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    I am not attracted to myself. I love how I look when dressed as a woman. I love my lipsticked smile and long hair in my many selfies when out, and I love myself as a human being with all my faults.

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    Yes. I fantasize using myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Teresa View Post
    I thought it translated as loving yourself as a woman , but Reine suggests to be sexually aroused when dressed as a woman.
    In the context of AGP, Teresa, loving oneself as a woman does mean sexual arousal. It has always meant sexual arousal.

    Normally when we say, "I love myself", it is taken as a positive reinforcement, i.e. "I am worthy". But in the context of Blanchard's 1990s study (where he was specifically investigating the motives for transition and when he first coined the term "autogynephilia" for the people who experienced sexual arousal when they dress), it meant sexual arousal. But as mentioned in my other post, Blanchard was sorely mistaken when he applied his AGP theory to transitioning transsexuals, who do transition for reasons of gender dysphoria and not because they are sexually aroused at the thought of expressing femininity. Everyone knows this now. But in the 1990s it wasn't as clear to everyone.

    Still, there are a lot of people here who are not TS, who will not transition, and who are not ashamed to admit that for them the crossdressing is or was sexual. There have always been a lot of members like this on cd.com and AGP ("auto"/self, "gyne"/woman, "philia"/sexual arousal) is a term that describes this.
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    No. I like the pretty feminine clothes, but I am not pretty. I am not turned on by my feminine self. When I wear feminine clothing my brain seems to interpret it as actual contact with a female and it releases a host of feel-good neurotransmitters. These neurotransmitters produce sensations of well-being, pleasure, sexual gratification, comfort, and self-identity. So crossdressing makes me happy, but I am not in love with myself as a female.

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    Confucius, look at how "philia" is used in terminology to describe various sexual preferences. It does not mean being in love.

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_paraphilias

    Please note that I posted this link to show a specific list of words with "philia" in them. I certainly do not consider that atypical sexual preferences or practices are in any way deviant, sinful, perverted, or any other way that people think or have thought of paraphilias.
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    Well, I do get turned on sometimes while dressed and looking at myself in the mirror. But attracted to myself, I don't think so. As I don't look that good as a girl!!

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    "I seduce myself" would be a better way of describing this attraction.
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    Sorry to keep posting in this thread, but Crissy Kay, fundamentally it does mean being turned on or being aroused. Not being in love with, not just being attracted to in the way a guy might be attracted to a girl, not feeling worthy as, not being proud of having pulled off a look that works, etc. In the context of AGP, it does mean being turned on/aroused.
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    So there are two questions there, Nicole...

    1. Are you attracted...
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    2. Do you find yourself a turn on...

    No to #2, but we can't help it if others do... However, I do find it stimulating and fulfilling, and I'm going to ask a question in answer to #1...

    Could there be anyone here who actively does not try to represent their individual transformation into what they would personally perceive as the most attractive femme self that they could portray...?

    If not, then isn't being attracted to what you are trying to emulate as an attractive image something of a self-fulfilling definition...?

    I think it's possible to be attracted without necessarily being aroused. (I blame Teresa for bringing sex into this - again... )

    And Reine, surely when you have the opportunity to get a little glammed up, you can't just base that look on what you believe others may find attractive - it must be more what your own perception of what you understand and feel is attractive too...?

    We can sometimes all be rather frail in our self-belief, and I do feel that AGP and arousal can be used as a subtle pejorative a little too much... after all, there are plenty of (almost all?) 'regular' males who need experience nothing more than a little legerdemain to get switched on...

    We shouldn't feel bad about looking good and feeling fine... looking good and feeling fine...


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    I still get turned on but when dressed for a while no. But if I dress I still get an arousal as it seem so good to be fem as you want to look.
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    Reine,
    Thanks for that I understand the point you're making . I queried with another member if Blanchard later did add transvestic to differentiate between TSs and CDers.

    Sorry I thought philia translated as love or to love .

    Katey,
    I do think about other things apart from that three letter word !

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    Your Darn right I do and i love every minute of it. When i have to change back into the every day clothes it is a real downer. i have to take things off one as a time, unless i have extended my play time too long. When i see the photos i take (selfies) i guess, i do get aroused and surprised that i can look like that.
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