Quote Originally Posted by Eryn View Post
if the latter there will be trouble as soon as something happens that causes you to deviate from that image too far, be it crossdressing, illness, or simply evolving with life.
People do change throughout their lives and some couples do grow apart. I don't think this has anything to do with not conforming to an image, since we all change and mature as we age. Who does expect their spouse to be the same person they were on their wedding day. And I also don't think that being ill shatters an image that a spouse should always be healthy. If this is the case, then I imagine the other spouse is unrealistic in addition to being callous, if they divorce because their spouse has cancer or something. This leaves us with the CDing.

While I agree that Judy's wife might have an entirely wrong mind's-eye image of what being a crossdresser means, if she can change her perception she will discover that her husband is the same person he was last week, albeit with an added dimension.