So, my 11 year old daughter and I were loading groceries in 111 degree heat. She started a conversation about how much more difficult it is to be a woman in such heat. We debated the subject, then she stated how much more uncomfortable it is for a female as she has cotton underwear. I talked about how hot it is in a bra, etc. long hair, etc. then I avoided the subject on the underwear as I always wear nylon panties. Out of nowhere, she says, "just don't be a transgender, Daddy."
I was blown away. I don't know how much she has put together, but I feel like I'm busted. She has indicated in the past that transgenders are "gross" and that it is unnatural. Did I miss an opportunity to approach the subject? Was I supposed to tell her that her Daddy is more feminine than her mother? I just snickered and avoided conversation.
As time goes on, she will become more in tune with what is going on. "how come Daddy never has underwear to fold when we do laundry? How come Daddy wears ladies pajamas?"
I want her to love her Daddy no matter what, but she is molded by her Mother and what her mores are based on her Southern ideals. How do I deal with this?
We have gotten our fingernails done together. We shop for female clothes together. We watch old movies and I comment on the magnificent gowns of yesteryear, as does she.
What am I supposed to do?