I was asked to post this so I am I am being honest as I can, I was born Carl Vaneyssen hence using Carla, 1968 my father was from South Africa mother from Mississippi my mother hated SA my father hated the states so at 4 my uncle who was vice ceo of exon flew us to England from Sa, my mother met Paul Kendall and married he owned Kendall Oil and later started Kayo oil, I knew I was different had no idea the word trans, so I kept quiet thought they would put me in a mental home, younger I only played with girl and would wear there clothes, at 13 I was sent to boarding school, after I graduated I moved into a apartment and started experimenting with dressing I would date women and trans women did not know if I was gay that went on to my 30s then in 2008 I decided to transition I knew what I had to do, wish I had done it but like the next day I met my soon to be wife she found photos of me and hated it got so mad about Carla I told her I would never do it again, but secretly I joined sites like this for me, I used to go on business trips just to dress I knew I was lying to her, but the urge was so strong and I was so scared of losing her, so in 2014 we separated and lived together, horrible mistake I started seeing Dr Clark in Miami feb 2014 and by July 2014 the decision to go on hormones was made, I had my letter. In July 2014 me and my wife talked I told her how I was feeling shortly she left I was devastated to suicide which I tried, unsuccessful we divorced sept 2014 I started hormones Oct 2014, I came out to my friends and family March 2015 , June 2015 I tripped on a dog gate and broke 8-9 ribs, was in and out of the hospital, two weeks later my ribs pierced my lung and I bled out I died and the hospital brought me back, they put titanium plates to repair, a new surgery only been done one or two times prior 65k , later 2015 I changed my name to Shelby Kendall a few years earlier my step father asked me to take his name I did, my step father died in 2015 my father in 2014 in 2015 I knew I had to be honest with everyone and started converting all my face book and social media to Shelby Kendall and photos to reflect , my advice to anyone new if you are out have a profile of your out not one of a guy and a girl I did huge mistake. Day to day life I have almost been jumped by 6 guys I tried to walk away they turned in my direction nothing happened but they called me baby girl freak etc, so I am careful where I go, dating more challenges, but navigating it day by day, I tell everyone I meet and for the most part accepting I am in South Florida , I wish I told my wife day one I know she would of stayed or left but we would of been friends if you are married or with someone else tell them and seek therapy or you may lose them but be true to you and your happiness it comes first if you are not happy how can you make someone else happy!
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as for weight loss did the quick weight loss system it works combined with exercise and walking swimming and bike riding it works after a month I quit and modified the program for me and follow it, I don't eat sugar or drink like I used to I like a few drinks not the bottle as I was drinking when I was so depressed as a guy
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I forgot in 2016 I did breast aug a month later I had an infection they had to be removed I was devastated have to wait 5 more months to do again these photos with breast in and day they removed so sad about this transitioning is not easy 13151844_1685231928404886_8652715403599853995_n.jpg4.jpg
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