How do you present as a woman?

[Jenny Alice]

Hello, This occurred to me on Saturday night when I went out with some friends. I wore an engagement ring and a wedding ring (and other things of course!) and I realised I often do this. Then I wondered if it were a symbol of the desire to present to the outside world as a wife and to pass as one. Like most of us I suspect I love the thought of passers bye seeing me as a woman. I have even had the occasional comment a woman might get when she passes a man. You know the kind of comment I mean and in a way I find it confirming my female identity. From this I wondered how others like to present themselves. Do others wish to pass as a married lady possibly with children? Or do you wish to be the flirty type who would like to attract men. Or perhaps a professional woman who wears a dark skirt and jacket and a cream white blouse during the day. There are many variations and if this is not too personal I would love to how you would like others to see you as a woman. Love, Jenny

[Linda E. Woodworth]

Hi Jenny,

I've been wearing a wedding band and engagement ring (cubic zirconium) for years. I wear them because I am married to my wife and want to show that. I admit that I also use it to let others know that I am not available for any handy panky.

Over all I try to present myself as a professional woman / housewife of my age.

[Tracii G]

I found out long ago wearing a wedding set to top off the image of femininity was a good idea.
In the beginning I got hit on by guys a bit and really it got annoying.
With a wedding and engagement ring it does send out a message to men and women alike that you are taken.
I have had women remark on my set a few times in a nice way and that kind of validates the image I am going for.

[BrendaPDX]

Hi Jenny, I like to present myself as an office worker or a single woman of my age, well maybe a little younger. I did pick up a few rings but they will go on the fingers that they happen to fit. Brenda

[JanetM.]

The last thing I want to do is to stand out in public and attract lots of attention. Crossdressing is more of a personal thing with me and I simply love the feeling of stepping into a totally different person with different looks, personality and name. I try to dress like an "everyday" woman would, often in jeans and a top but occasionally in a skirt or jumper dress. The hair I choose is usually shoulder length or longer and always with bangs. It is always fun to drive during the day with large fem sunglasses on as most women do. So to answer the question, I just want to fit in and look natural.

[phylis anne]

not toally out but present as kinda tomboy/girl so unless I am in a real seedy venue I don't gethit on too much

[NancySue]

I have to be very flexible. We live in a smaller town where most women dress very casually...very. No makeup, jeans, flip flops, casual top, slightly combed hair, no jewelry, etc. My appearance generally includes most female things not seen around here...very frustrating. I love pencil skirts, makeup, earrings, hose (a definite no-no), heels, blouses, both sleeveless and 3/4 sleeves, etc. All causing unwanted attention. I have a supportive wife. We agree, Discovery would be a disaster. I work at a bank. This town is absolutely not ready for us. Our Board recently discussed the transgender bathroom issue. Many of the comments were very negative. I kept thinking...if they only knew. Nothing was done, either. We go to an upscale mall about 20 miles away to shop, take in a movie, etc. I/we fit in much better there. The "professional" woman is my favorite mode.

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[Jessica May]

I typically try to look like a girl my age. Jeans and a top or sundress if the weather is nice. I also where a ring to indicate that I am married ( I love my wife and want to show it). Sometimes looking like a business professional is fun too.

[Elizabeth G]

I like the idea of engagement/wedding rings as it helps avoid unwanted attention. I like aprofessional office look. It helps explain being dressed up in our increasingly casual society and looks feminine but not out of place in the right setting.

Elizabeth

[bonni]

professional mode and casual

[Dana44]

I always wear an engagement ring. Here in Texas, women do go casual but you see several in skirts or dresses also. I try to always have a skirt or dress on and it does not look unusual.

[Amy Fakley]

I wear an engagement ring and wedding band set when I go out too. For one thing, I am a married woman (though I'm sure it's pure vanity to imagine anyone would be interested). The other thing is that I'm either gonna have a huge "crop circle" on my finger where my wedding ring normally is, or a big ol man-ring ... I'd rather have something fabulous, and it's simply amazing how much absoloutely convincing cubic zirconia you can buy for $10 direct from China these days.

Honestly, my style in girl mode is about like my style in guy mode. Preppy/professional with a side of nerd and a big old helping of soccer mom. My wife says I have boring fashion taste LOL. Can't hide who I am ... I'm a nerd through and through, even in girl mode.

[Jenniferathome]

I wear my wedding band and a traditionally female engagement ring whenI am out. I AM married after all. I used to think this would prevent men from approaching me, but I doubt most men approaching strange actually look for a ring. I think what keeps men away is my age, where I go, and, oh yeah, the fact that I am a cross dresser and clearly not female.

I always try to present as best I can. I can only work with what I have.

[Stephanie47]

At almost seventy years old there is no problem keeping men away! Anyway, I have not had my wedding band off, even for surgery, ever since it went on. I dress to project how I feel. I always wear a dress, hosiery and heels. The dress is appropriate for any woman in her thirties to her sixties and older.

[Heidi Stevens]

Hey Jenny. Since you do go out with friends, you undoubtably have picked up on the fact to dress as the group has chosen. The group should be dressed like the others in the place you're going, so you shouldn't attract attention needlessly. I always dress to fit the occasion and in the best, clean, well kept clothes to fit the situation. (You don't wear a club dress to go grocery shopping!)
I wear a wedding set as well, not only for that extra layer of protection, but to also honor the lady I am married to. Now don't think this will make you immune from being hit on! There are guys out there who could care less if a lady is married or not. Have a back up line to feed these idiots who forget what the ring represents. (I use the old stand by: sorry, but I'm not into guys. And give them a smile).
If you want to look your best, find high quality pieces to fill out your wardrobe. They may cost more, but they hold up and look much better on you than the cheap stuff. Check out consignment shops for gently used articles like this at a reasonable price.
If you think for just a second, what would the other women wear to where I'm going? That then should be your clue on what to wear. Have fun out there!

[gokatiegirl]

Lately everything has been at knee length, and always wear a wedding ring. I cut back on my makeup and only use what is necessary. I don't try to draw attention but at 6-1 it's not easy to hide. I would love to be seen as a woman but I'm not and don't pretend to be. I just be myself and don't worry about what others think.

[CarlaWestin]

No matter which appearance I've decided to emulate, I always wear my wedding ring.
After all, even if I'm wearing six inch heels, giant boobs and a leather mini-skirt, I'm still a happily married man.

[ClosetED]

I have not ventured out, but I present myself here in the style I call catalog women - focused on looking pretty / feminine. I am considering joining a local support group - Tiffany Club - and would probably goes in a more blendable outfit, but still pretty and feminine. I did grab 90 minutes this AM to fully dress for first time in almost 3 months, so can post some pics later. One is in size 6 pants.
Hugs, Ellen

[Lorileah]

Funny I find that a wedding set is the best bait to get men to hit on you. They think you're safe and won't want a long term commitment

[Joan58]

Ellen ,

Looking forward to seeing your pics, Was 90 minutes enough?

[Ceera]

When my wife was alive, neither of us wore a ring of any kind, under normal circumstances. We both did to much with our hands, where a ring might be a safety hazard, or would be damaged or messed up by what we were doing. She had a nice wedding ring that I made for her - sterling silver cast in the form of a rose, and set with water opal that shone more than a diamond in direct sunlight. It remained in our safe, except for special formal occasions. I never had a wedding ring myself.

Now I have a 'wedding ring', which, when I am out at a more formal occasion, I wear on the ring finger of my right hand, as befits a widow. It's a fairly large cubic zirconia in a nice Tiffany setting, and the ring looks like white gold. When asked, as Ceera I state that I am widowed, even if I am not wearing that ring.

[Antonia Flemming]

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[Teresa]

Jenny,
I've just answered a comment to Dana, about presentation, when she said my bodycon dress made me look like the woman.

Personally I like to keep it as natural as possible, try and think how a woman would dress in the same circumstances, obviously this relates to me going out to social evenings, they don't need to be OTT but smart without being dressy. Not excessive with the makeup , forms just big enough to achieve a natural figure . I don't dress to stand out , but just look as close to a woman as I can. I don't bother with rings, I'm not going to pass 100% to fool anyone if I'm a married woman or not besides I'm not looking for a relationship .

Only today I spoke to an old friend I hadn't seen in twenty years, she knew about my CDing from my wife so I brought her up to date and showed her my recent pictures, she was just blown away how passable I was ( in her words , not mine !). As usual I had the envious comment about my legs, but she was so overwhelmed how I managed to put the whole thing together.

[PaulaQ]

I'm just me. I wear dresses and flats. Makeup when I have time.

I'm engaged, so I wear an engagement ring. This doesn't deter anyone from flirting.

My personality is more noticeable than my appearance.

[Cheryl T]

I always wear at least a wedding band.
I'm happy and proud being married and love being seen as a married woman.