if i were you I would invite all the gals from here over for a sat afternoon bbq ....xoxo
if i were you I would invite all the gals from here over for a sat afternoon bbq ....xoxo
Oh My Goodness, NO! That was a hypothetical response to your neighbor, not to you! :-)Originally Posted by Teresa
"Why shouldn't art be pretty? There are enough unpleasant things in the world." -Pierre-Auguste Renoir
If he can point to you exactly where in the HOA covinant or local law that you cannot wear a dress outside than he has a point.
Ciao,
Scarlett
I'd tell him that if he or his wife didn't want to see me then he should build a solid fence.
More broadly, why are you worrying about a theoretical problem? I've found through experience that all of my imagined fears were unfounded.
Interesting discussion about what might happen. Truth is that one never knows. Many of my neighbors know and are also friends. I've had a couple neighbors who would have had real problems with it. On the other hand they weren't happy with any neighbors. Over the years going back to the 60s, I've had neighbors that knew that I crossdressed and never mentioned it.
The real story is your wife's feelings and if you were outed would it be bad for your work. It appears you aren't friends with your neighbors.
I live in an enclosed apartment building and I am sure most of the people in the building know about me. There are around 23 apartments in the building. No one has never made a negative comment to me. I definitely know the apartment manager knows, and have passed her en femme and will say hi and then she will say hi back, so we get along fine. Since I am perusing transitioning, I have more on my mind than what some neighbor may think. In fact some of my fellow residents have been pretty nice to me.
Of course it is easy enough to just tell them to bug off and mind their own business. BUT..... There have been instances where people have had to have big american flags (real big) removed, or big crosses.... it offended someone. So it really becomes more of a point of how far do they want to take it. You would probably win in this, but in the hypothetical since this is what this is, how far do YOU want to take it, if that is what they do??
Chickens should be allowed to cross the road without having their motives questioned
I remember a "Dear Abby" letter in which the writer queried whether she should approach her neighbors because her husband and sons were spying on the wife who sun bathed without any clothes on in the back yard. The wife had a very nice body. The husband and son were spying from their second story window. The response was tell your husband and son to stop looking out the window!
Don't break the number 1 rule of crossdressing, "don't care what random people think". Other peoples discomfort is of no importance. When you live your life the way other people want you to, You miss out on what you wanted to experience.
Hypothetically,
Response, I am glad you brought this up,
Because it really disgust me how I see your wife in your backyard as well.
I really would prefer to see her naked. Do you think you could talk to her about that.
my sister's reply when I told her how I prefer to dress
"Everyone has there thing, all that matters is that you are happy, love what you do and who you do it with"
More broadly, why are you worrying about a theoretical problem? I've found through experience that all of my imagined fears were unfounded.[/QUOTE]
I agree with this statement why even stress about a theoretical problem?? Unless of course this "theoretical " issue really happened but you don't want to admit it.
Stressing over something that you made up sounds a bit crazy.
Daily, I sunbath in a thong. One evening, we had the neighbors over for dinner and the new, next door neighbor (a single gal) remarked to me (and everybody else), "Imagine my surprise that I moved next door to a nudist!". I just smiled and told her to join me anytime. Everybody had a good laugh. I wondered if she was being passive-aggresive, but as I have come to know her, she was just making an observation and intended no harm. She hasn't joined me yet..........
So, to answer your question, I agree with Reine. I suggest a friendly wave, a big smile, and invite them over for a drink. Ask him if the color looks good on you. Obviously, they are neighbors who you don't want to socialize with.
You could suggest they spend more time shopping at WalMart, then nothing else would disgust them outside the store ever again!
Joyce,
They are OK as neighbours but have never socialised with anyone in the village, they appear to spend six months away on the south coast. The one thing that is wearing thin is he has deliveries redirected to my address without asking me, in fact I noticed a formal note on one courier company labels confirming that arrangement, I have appeared twice now dressed to take in his parcels.
Raychel,
His wife has sunbathed in a bikini , my wife noticed before I did, I wasn't so stupid to ask if I could do the same .
Tracii,
I'm sure you're right it's just the thought of , " What if ? " . I've always been like that especially with my photography, the times I would have overlooked something if I didn't think of the worse scenario !
Well, if you don't want to see them and they don't want to see you, you should plant some bamboo next to your fence. It grows quickly and is quite tall. Be sure to dig in metal sheeting of at least 12 inches around the edge of the planting area though, to prevent the roots from traveling. I had planted bamboo in my garden years ago to provide privacy from my neighbors and it worked wonderfully.
Have a look at the effect here. You can plant the bamboo closer together for thicker coverage:
http://www.moneypit.com/sites/defaul...tdoor-sofa.jpg
Reine
Reine,
We already have a Horse Chestnut tree and two Norwegian Maples , all his trees ! The leaves from those are a nightmare now in autumn let alone anything else. My son has a variety of bamboo that isn't too invasive , so I my ask for some offshoots anyway to fill other areas of the garden.
Going back to Leslie's point , the issue is on my mind because of my DADT situation .
Last edited by Teresa; 08-21-2016 at 03:30 AM.
I had rented a place just to dress and a person next door told me it was immoral and told me something I'd rather not repeat.
I say if you look into private property you might see things you don't agree with so don't look if it bothers you.
The question posed by Teresa reminds me of this little joke.
A crotchety old lady calls the police because she claims her male neighbor is walking around his house naked. A officer visits the old girl to see what the problem is and she lights him up about the neighbor is naked morning, noon and night and the officer should go over and arrest him or at least sternly talk to him. The officer asks the lady to show him where and what the situation is and they go to her window and look over at the neighbours house and all the cop can see is the guy from the shoulders up. So the officer tells the lady that all he can see is a guy from the shoulders up without a shirt on to which the old gal tells him he is doing it all wrong and the officer has to stand on the kitchen table to see how right she is.........
Teresa, its your yard and nothing illegal going on, enjoy
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