Dinky, that day is coming. I always planned on telling my wife once the kids had moved on, well that day is now fast approaching. My wife and I get on well now after a number of ups and downs (unrelated to my CDing). Any revelation on my part could go either way and I really don't know which. It could split us apart which I'd hate but I doubt she'd find my dressing acceptable, maybe as much for the fact I've kept it a secret for so long as the actual dressing. But, its going to have to be done, soner rather than later.
