I went to my mothers house yesterday and she told me that my uncle had come back from Europe and had closed a family bank account and the money was split and since my father has passed he gave it to my mother. She told me it isn't much and she split it for her family, she gave me my share and she recommended me to buy something sentimental with the money and not just spend it on garbage and try to have a memory of my father. I don't like keeping cash in the house so I told my wife what my mother wanted me to do with the money in which she thought it was a great idea.
We went to a jewelry store and when we got to the counter I opened the envelope and counted the money and handed my wife half of of it, she asked me what I was doing, I told her that my father loved her and respected her and relied on her and loved her like a daughter not a daughter in law, and there's nothing more that would make my father and myself happer that she also buy something sentimental in memory of my dad. My wife started dumping tears like a water fall, I didn't understand and asked her what's with the emotion. She said that had to be the most unselfish thing she ever seen a person do, and that I could have bought something for myself that would have been OK, but instead I thought of her. Afterwards we went for dinner and I explained to her that I'm the way I am because of her unselfishness, always putting the family first and the patience that she has had with my dressing and how I knew and still know how hard it is to coupe with it, but threw it all she encourages anything we do. She then for the first time opened up about the day I told her, that when I told her she didn't know what to think and was a little upset that I told her about it a few weeks after we were married. Instead of reacting so fast she decided to see where I was going with it. Even though the line she drew in the sand I crossed numerous times she still believed I did no harm to no one and believes our marriage is thirty years strong because of the dressing, and believes it brings us closer. She told me she thanks GOD everyday that she didn't over react when I told her because she would have lost out on thirty years of happiness and even after two pierced ears, removal of almost all my body hair, more fem things then an average women, and is still flattered that she is the only holder of this secret, and she still believes she would have let a good guy go if she would have decided different. It was a great night I was really happy to hear her talking in a positive manner about the dressing, and sometime it just takes an act of kindness to maybe bring out the better in others. I hope you don't mind I shared this, this site is my family and when something good happen in my life or bad or I need to vent I like to share it here with what I consider my friends. Thanks