Being dressed in front of SO

[Katie01]

My GF is totally ok with my dressing. She has given me so many of her old panties to wear that I have donated bags full to Goodwill. We always talk when I get some new cute or sexy thing. We text each other as girls all the time for fun. She knows how happy it makes me to have my girl times.

Here's the thing- I feel very uncomfortable being dressed in front of her. When she's not there I imagine how great it is going to be, but when the time comes i don't want to anymore. I've done it a few times but it's always been awkward for me. Same for shopping together. When I shop alone it's a total turn on. When we do it together, she's into it but I get super shy about it.

It might be a body image thing or something else, but I keep thinking it would add a whole other dimension to dress together.

Does anyone else have similar feelings?

[JenniferMBlack]

I have the same feelings of awkwardness when dressed with her, not so much with shopping. She is really cool about it and has fun with it but it feels wrong to me for some reason. I ly thing I can think of for a reason is all the other times I have been rejected or made to feel like a freak from other girls.

[Angie G]

I dress every day in front of wy wife. Who in awesome with it and we shop together for Angie. Just chill and go for it and enjoy youe Katie time with your lady.
Angie

[Katie01]

Thank you wbdavid and Angie for your replies. It always feels good to be connected with others. The greatest gift of my GF's acceptance is helping me put my dressing in context. I may not feel comfortable dressing in front of her but she's helped me understand is that it's not as earth shattering and I built it up to be over the years.

[Detroit Molly]

It took about a year for my wife to get really comfortable seeing Molly around, but now it's no big deal. I've never had any anxiety about dressing in front of her, but I have been cautious about doing so out of respect for her feelings. Anymore though, I get dolled up to go out while she's sitting in my office playing Civ V or Tropico and I kiss her goodbye before I go out. I play in my band dressed up and my kids have seen me leave the house as Molly to play. Just last month my wife went out with me all dressed up for the first time and it was really, really fun.

An SO's acceptance is a gift beyond measure, and those of us who have them are luckier than we know.

[xNicolex]

Firstly I'm pretty sure you know how lucky you are to have a GF that is cool with it. My GF is cool with my dressing and the first time I dressed in front of her I was so nervous that I felt stupid and almost backed out. But I didn't and the more I did it the easier it became and the closer we got to eachother One of the reasons I think she is cool about it is because she recognised that I was sharing something very personal to me almost on a spiritual level and she appreciated my honesty and whole heartedness about it all. So what I suggest you do is run with it, dress up as often as you can and feel that thrill of excitement you feel alone, but instead with your GF. Good luck and I hope you both have many girly nights out together

[CONSUELO]

Perhaps the more you dress with her the less embarrassed you will feel. It could be that you just feel shy. It seems you have a wonderful GF who loves this part of you so just go along with it. If it persists try finding a good therapist to talk it through.

[Alice 23]

It may be a good idea to chat with your gf to see how she feels with you being dressed in front of her. I know the first few times I was dressed in front of my SO was nerve wracking and I felt similar to how you described. I know my SO accepts my dressing, encourages it even, but even after a year it still makes us uncomfortable for the first couple minutes together on occasion, if that makes sense. My advise would be, if she enjoys it and is something you want to do, just do it, even if it's uncomfortable at first, but have fun. Personally, I always put my SO's feelings first; if she's not okay with Alice "coming over to visit" as we call it, then Alice doesn't come over to visit.

[S. Lisa Smith]

I have never been dressed with my wife. She knows I do it, is supportive, but doesn't want to meet Lisa. I wish she would, but I'm not going to force the issue. Sigh...

[Krisi]

I am not uncomfortable being dressed around my wife but I am not comfortable getting dressed in front of her. Specifically, putting on my boobs, butt or wig. Once these are on and I am "Krisi", it's not a problem to change blouses or skirts in front of her.

It's pretty much the same getting undressed. Taking off the clothes is OK but not the wig, boobs or butt. I suppose I'm comfortable being Krisi or Homer, but not some creature in-between.

[ellbee]

...but I am not comfortable getting dressed in front of her. Specifically, putting on my boobs, butt or wig. Once these are on and I am "Krisi", it's not a problem to change blouses or skirts in front of her.

I think that probably holds true for many of us.


Only time I was *sort of* comfortable as an "in-between creature" in front of someone was when I was getting ready at a drag queen's home. Reason being, they know exactly what it's like!

But even then, I was kinda like, eek!

[Crissy Kay]

I have that problem too. My SO is OK with my dressing. It is just that I feel so weird or odd dressed up with her around. I have not been able to get over it yet.

[Allison2006]

As a couple of others have said, I don't feel awkward being dressed in front of my wife, but for some reason feel awkward getting dressed in front of her - I'd rather do that in private. I also feel more relaxed shopping for fem stuff on my own than with her, although I do enjoy our shopping dates.

[Carol]

I always feel a little uncomfortable around my partner while dressed. She is totally supportive but I know she fell in love with a guy's guy so that makes me think twice about dressing too often around her.

[misschris]

My wife doesn't like it. She caught me recently and she insisted that I had another woman here that she saw. I changed quickly but didn't cover my painted toenails.

[Micki_Finn]

I think in this instance it's important for you to reflect on exactly WHY you feel uncomfortable. If you're afraid that she's going to react negatively to you being dressed then you need to talk to her about it as only she can reassure you that she's ok with it.
If you're just self conscious about how you look dressed, perhaps your girl can help you with that too. Maybe she can help you with your makeup and outfits to find what's looks best and most flattering on you.

[leannejacobs]

I dress in privacy, like Krisi I prefer do keep that part to myself, I do feel awkward with my wife for a while, when I'm on my own I'm constantly fussing over my hair, posing in the mirror, walking around etc. But when I'm with her I have to stay composed, don't get me wrong, I still enjoy it thoroughly, I just need to relax a little more.

[Petra1]

My wife has said repeatedly that it's okay to dress in front of her but I still feel the need to hide it. I used to naturally wake up early in Saturday's. When she awoke, she would come downstairs to find me dressed, at least partially. Now when I hear her get up, I run to Petra's closet and change back to male mode. Don't know why. As much as I want dress in front of her, I, too, find it awkward.

[Micki_Finn]

I started out like Petra. Even though the wife was open, I was hesitant. What really helped me was her being constantly supportive and encouraging. I was trying to be dressed in front of her as little as possible but she kept prodding me "Don't you want to dress?" Or even flat out telling me "You should go get dressed. I know you want to". I'm now pretty comfortable being dressed in front of her except when she's having a rough day. She still doesn't care, but to me it feels selfish to put all the time and effort into myself when I know she's worn out, mad, frustrated, sad, etc.

[Tracii G]

Micki has the right angle just because you can there are times when you shouldn't for your wife's sake.
To the ones that feel awkward maybe ask your wife to help you get over that.

[Alice_2014_B]

I cannot be mid-dressed around the wife.
Once I got my boobs in and wig on then we're good to go; it's like, "all or nothing".
There's times she's done my makeup pre-wig, but that's different because she's participating in getting me ready.

[Gen D]

I'm not get dress with my wife - she is ok with me getting dress, just not with her.
but, regardless to my condition, Your GF sounds very cool, and as I learned before - Once you speak with your SO on yours needs, fears and the rest of your feeling - it is become more comfortable.

[DaniT]

I am much the same way.

I only dressed up all the way for her for the first time last night. I was pretty awkward but she made me feel at ease after a little bit.

I hope it gets easier because I really enjoy sharing this part of my life.

Dani

[JeanW]

My wife is also very accepting even encouraging at times. I too can sometimes feel awkward and very shy being around her when dressed. It seems to go away after a while. But the feeling of submissiveness sometimes gets stronger. I cant seem to be comfortable freshening my makeup in front of her even though she was the one that suggested to me to try wearing it and is the one thats bought it for me and even showed me how to use a lash curler and liquid eye liner.

[NicoleScott]

Like several others have said, I'd rather transform privately, but have no problem with her seeing me fully transformed. She is supportive but doesn't participate. She has no problem with my OTT style.