I'm pretty new here to these forums as well as dressing, but I've noticed I'm not alone. I've seen many posts from ladies saying that they had just started dressing.
For the benefit of all of us neonates, how would all you vets complete the following: "When I first started, the one thing I wish someone had told me was..."
If you get in a serious relationship with a woman, tell her you CD BEFORE you get married.
I'm new as well, but the one thing I wish someone would have told me is that one minute I would be fine and happy dressed, then all of a sudden, I will be disgusted with myself.
Maybe if someone had said, you do know that once you start you might never be able to stop. Too late now!, not that I'd want to stop.
I'll pitch in my own: To reduce ingrown hairs, exfoliate like a fiend!
There is nothing wrong or shameful for what you do, express yourself as you wish, but not everyone will agree with you.
"you are a strange species and there are many out there;shall I tell you what I find beautiful about you ,you are at your best when things are at their worst" ...[ Starman]
It may of course be a bit disturbing to sense that one is really not so firmly anchored to the gender one was born into.
...Don't be ashamed of who you are.
Adrienner gave very sage advice, Micki. I hid my CDing from my wife for nearly 25 years before telling her. I may have never wound up marrying her due to her objections. It would have saved a lot of my guilt and her pain when she did find out a couple of years ago. We both have since had to work hard to keep things together. I suggest you find the courage to tell anyone you think you have a future with about your CDing. If you're lucky, they won't have any objections. If they do, you're that much ahead.
Be yourself. Everyone else is taken!
"You're not weird nor alone."
but that's mainly for the pre-internet crowd
If you are the head to toe kind of dresser as I've said may times
make sure you get a great wig, don't settle for some cheap one.
Get one that makes you feel amazing when you see it on you.
just one of the details that made a huge difference for me.
Hugs
Samantha
I am new to this but I learn fast!! With relationships, the words are trust and communication!! With yourself, no shame You are who you are and no one knows why so relax and forgive yourself, feel feminine and enjoy it when you can!! Best wishes to all!! Hugs Lana Mae
I wish someone had told me...
1) All SA's in department stores as well as specialty dress shops (wedding, prom, etc...) will be super friendly and helpful even after you tell them you are shopping for yourself (maybe more so). I have made genuine friendships with some of the nicest people. Too many years wasted because I feared the reaction from walking into a David's Bridal. Now I have "my room" (#9). It is oversized with a bench but no mirrors so I must step out onto the floor to see myself. Many of the customers have been super friendly and complimentary as well. Which is why...
2) Nobody objects to you wearing fabric to hide your nakedness. Some people might give a compliment, other's won't care and the rest don't even notice.
I suggest you do so with confidence. If you're scared and nervous and slink into the store, the SAs might be staring at you not because of what you're wearing but because they think you're trying to shoplift.
Last edited by Lorileah; 09-14-2016 at 12:51 AM. Reason: no ned to quote post above yiurs
Hi Micki, Sixty Nine years ago I wish some one would've told me how much this will cost you ...
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Having my ears triple pierced is AWESOME, ~~...
I can explain it to you, But I can't comprehend it for you !
If at first you don't succeed, Then Skydiving isn't for you.
Be careful what you wish for, Once you ring a bell , you just can't Un-Ring it !! !!
Good advice. Totally agree. I wouldn't go into a store without confidence. That is probably why it took so long to start. I still only enter in boy clothes but at one store the SA walked me to my car. I was in a dress that I brought with me to show her. She then took a couple pictures of/for me with my phone.Originally Posted by Micki_Finn
Just be yourself, nobody really cares how you dress.
someday youll accept yourself so dont waste your youth....
....Mykell
i dressed like a girl and i liked it!crossdressing...theirs an app for that
Listen to the veteran dressers and don't blow off their advice they are here to help.
I started at about 4 yeas old; Climbing into my mothers closet and
trying on just about everything. I loved the girdles, and the nylons
the best.
At 12, I got busted when my mother found several girdles under my
bed.
After the Service, I started up again. First wife did not like the Idea'
of her man wearing a girdle under his regular cloths. Here comes a
ugly divorce.
15 years later I find a real nice girl, who doesn't mind me wearing
Female clothes....Happy Days.
Rader
Listen to the *GG's* and don't blow off their advice they are there to help.
Don't think you're going to become TS one day. As I did when I first began.
Not all of us have a female inside trying to get out. Most of us r simply CD's!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
If applicable, listen to those who are transitioning/have transitioned and don't blow off their advice they are here to help.
There is a difference between keeping a secret and being private.
Try not to grow it into a big monster in your head. It doesn't have to be a BIG deal.
Break every mirror in your house before you turn 45! The image quality is severely beyond after that age!
;-)
Work out your gender/dressing issues before getting into any serious relationships. Very important!
Also, it's okay to be who you are.
My name is Carol.
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