I guess this is primarily a question for those of you with accepting SOs (i.e. those who are out and not in a DADT situation). How do you avoid becoming so obsessed with your dressing that you lose focus on your wife? Call it pink fog or whatever. There are numerous stories to be found on various support sites where wives of crossdressers talk about how their husbands became so self-absorbed and obsessed with their dressing that they stopped paying attention to their wives.
So what are some tactics you've employed to make sure you always show your wife appreciation for being her beautiful self? How do you keep the "other woman in your marriage" (a paraphrased quote from many of those same stories) from taking over or making your wife feel like she's taking a back seat?