A recent thread inspired my thread. First let me say that I am in no way putting anyone down or anything. Just my thoughts here......please don't take offense.
I have read recently and not so recently in here about some of you girls having issues with yourselves and your wives in relation to crossdressing. Now I know not everyone has an accepting wife. That is obvious but what I don't understand is WHY you haven't told her (if you haven't already).
For those with unccepting wives:
You have to take agood hard look at your relationships. If she knows and has tried to accept but it has been YEARS and she is not willing at this point, then you have to re-evaluate your relationship. If she hasn't changed by now she probably isn't going to.
For those who haven't told their wives:
You need to do that NOW. If you wait it'll only be worse. The realistic reaction is going to be hurt and anger and confusion. But the longer you wait the more magnified these reactions will be. They will feel even more betrayed etc. Every day that goes by that you don't tell her is another day you have deceived her. Whether it be out of fear, or love for her...you need to not deceive her anymore. If you have been together a few years or more, she is going to be hurt no matter what, no basically you have nothing to lose. The sooner you tell her the more time you have to help her understand. Worst case, she leaves...but if I can try and put a positive spin on that.....that is a chance for you to find yourself and someone who loves you for ALL of you!
Bottom line is this....if she is not willing to learn about crossdressing and at least TRY and accept it, then she probably won't anytime in the future. In the meantime you are stifling your true self and hurting yourself by shutting a part of you down. That is not fair to anyone.
No one should feel that they cannot be their true selves. Or feel that they have to hide from the one person they love most. Put your whole self out there and see what happens. If things with your wives were meant to be then they will be. If not then that is your chance for freedom and acceptance from someone else. Not all wives are unaccepting...you can find someone who loves ALL of you. It is possible.
Now I am in no way telling you all to leave your wives and children. I am telling you that YOU are responsible for your OWN happiness and if you can't be true self without fear...then that makes for a miserable person. You all need to talk to your wives and figure out if your relationships are going to change for the better or if you are better off moving on.
There seems to be a lot of unhappy girls in here that have to hide themselves in their own homes......is it worth it to live your life as someone you are not ...........????
Good luck and God Bless!!!