A question to throw out.
I 'came out' about 3 months ago. Yes, kind of a shock but not a surprise to the SO of 39 years; a good and loving woman, the Wife. Upon declaring myself CD, I showed her the wardrobe, etc. I've dressed partially (in a few girly things) blended with male clothes. Pierced my ears (love my pierced ears and earrings). Only dressed in front of her once since the pronouncement (and then no makeup, etc.).
She says OK, but I perceive she is uncomfortable with seeing me in my dress. Her sister (who knows too, and I trust) brought up the issue of "how do you think it makes her feel as a WOMAN to see her Man feminized." And that has certainly provided grist for this on-going discussion.
The initial 'plan" between us was to take baby steps. No radical outward changes. Not yet. See how it goes. But I'm stoked about my coming-out and want to proceed. Excited to the extent that I've strayed out of bounds a couple times already by daring to go out in public (while on travel away from home). I live by audacity, so I personally don't have a problem with it. But it is NOT in keeping with the Baby Steps Approach. [Yes, I am telling her about the adventures when I get home. Honesty is a must here.]
BUT...... (for the forum); how much is too soon? Going OUT in public has already proved nearly disastrous (a long story of almost 'getting caught' in a bad situation). I may be getting too adventurous and enthusiastic, and don't want to blow it with the Wife by something embarrassing to her. YET..... I know in the back of my mind where this is going. More public outings of the type that might mortify the SO. But how do we get there?