I agree with JenOriginally Posted by Jenniferathome
I agree with Jen
I don't "need" to dress. I will not have a breakdown if I don't dress. I like to dress and I want to dress but if I have something else to occupy my time, not dressing does not seriously bother me.
My wife and I sometimes go on extended trips away from home. I don't take my female things (except for panties) and I do just fine.
It's just a want for me. A very strong want, but a want nonetheless. CDing is one of my three main forms of self expression. So I have two other creative outlets, but I really love to be all dressed up.
So far a lot of great answers and it does seem it's a question we do ask ourselves. As I said in the beginning with me feeling
a need at times that can bring in new questions and I hope to find those answers in time. I may not and that's ok too, I mean I am comfortable being out and about as Leigh and that is a part of my need so time will tell
I would always frame it as a choice to avoid it rolling downhill and becoming an indulgence I could treat as beyond my control. I wouldn't want that.
On the other hand, per what Jennifer has said, I wouldn't want to present as a woman if I didn't have any underlying compulsion or motivation to. I'm still figuring it out.
My personal take on the gender spectrum for ME, and, I say my belief in what makes me tick is facts and circumstances. I believe there is a small segment of me because of my DNA that has the need to express oneself. It seems expression usually arises with stress. There are many times I have had plenty of time to express myself, but, I have had no desire. When I was in the army I had zero interest in wearing women's clothing. My male hormonal side or inner self was in an environment that was centered on actual physical survival and well being. The feminine dna side just was not needed.
Now, I am in a situation where I am a care giver to an ill wife for a year. The need to wear women's clothing seems to have dissipated, although I still seem to want to be on this forum and also check out women's clothing on eBay and emails from Macy's or JCPenny. I think the male characteristic of protecting a loved one or the "tribe" for the time being has overridden any feminine side in me.
I want to because I need to. If it were always my choice, there would be no limit on my time spent wearing women's clothing. It completes me as nothing else does.
This. I love this answer.
I have thought about this question before. I've never been convinced any of this is a "need." Thus it's a "want" to me.
When does a want become a need? I last dressed at the end of June. I spent a wonderful weekend in full Courtney mode. Then summer got really busy. I didn't even really think about dressing thru July, Aug, Sept. Now things have calmed down. My desire to dress has now increased. Do I "need" to dress......Probably No. Do I "want" to dress.......Absolutely. But again, I ask, when does want become need??
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