Sorry girls but I just need to vent for a minute here since I have nowhere else to air this. Today is a really frustrating day. We're going to a Halloween Party tonight, one that we usually get invited to every year. I'd been looking forward to it for months, had a femme costume all picked out, excited for the one day a year I get to go out and be myself (on a side note isn't it ironic how for most people Halloween is chance to dress-up like something they're not yet for many of us it's our chance to show off part of ourselves). However, a couple weeks ago after we ordered out costumes, my wife asked me to change my costume and not go crossdressed at all. With the recent revelation of my gender identity, she didn't think she could handle it. So in the interests of going slow and helping her deal, I agreed not to.
So of course I'm seriously disappointed. What's worse is I found out the other day that a couple we're friends with is going to be there. I don't think we've even seen the husband in that couple on a Halloween where he wasn't dressed as a woman. Of course he does the obnoxious obvious man in a dress thing and plays it off as funny (I honestly suspect he's a CD trying to hide it). So not only do I get to stew on the fact I didn't get to dress, I get to most likely sit there with him horribly dressed making a mockery of crossdressers, knowing I could have done so much better.
On top of that, we got a few shipments over the last couple days of clothing that my wife and I ordered. She wouldn't open the packages because it had both clothes for her and me, apparently seeing a dress or leggings meant for me is more than she can take. So I separated her stuff, brought it to her, took mine to my private area of the house to try on. For being out of the closet to her, I still get forced to essentially "sneak" around a lot. Came back after confirming the fit of my clothes and she was in our bedroom trying on her new dresses and boots. The outfits looked great (I picked them for her) and I let her know how great she looked in all of it. Also made a suggestion that a pair of black tights would compliment the one outfit and she agreed. But then it hit me. This really sucks. I'd love to have someone give me that kind of compliment. Hell I'd love to be able to try stuff on in front of her at all. Or maybe just be able to gush to her about the shoes I got recently that I just LOVE. But I can't do any of that. Known but not seen situation with her doesn't allow it.
I know she needs time and she's trying, she really is. I don't blame her and I'm not mad at her or anything but it is really frustrating and honestly depressing. Anyone else dealt with similar feelings in either situation. If yes, how would you deal with it?