It was Saturday night, the weekend before Halloween, and all I wanted to do was to get inside the club (an LGBT establishment, so I was not fooling anyone), have a drink and dance. As I navigated through the parking lot, I was approached three times by different lurking guys who were very generous with the compliments, wanted to "talk," and tried to convince me to forgo the club and hang with them instead. While I never felt concerned about my safety--the area was well-lit and security was present--I felt a little annoyed that just because I was wearing a dress, I was somehow there for their entertainment. I guess I am okay with compliments from guys and pretty much anyone for that matter, as I find that they can be somewhat affirming if genuine and not attached to a proposition. I guess my most recent experience out en femme felt like I had to run a gauntlet of sexual advances just to get into a party. So, for me, the situation was more in the disturbing category, as it crossed the line a bit. Sucks being seen as "meat."
So, for those of you who go out, when men (and/or women) hit on you, is it affirming or disturbing?
Cheers,
Jill
