Do you see many other CD'ers out in the *true* wild?

[ellbee]

I'm not talking about around Halloween, or at LGBT clubs, or at CD meet-ups, or whatever. Of course we'll pop up a lot more around those times & locations.


I'm talking about the regular, everyday, "vanilla" times & locations...

At the grocery store on a normal Tuesday evening, at the mall on a Friday morning, over at your post office, at the airport, whatever.



To be honest, I really haven't. From what I recall, it was only one time, years ago, when I was a kid. One of those double-lane drive-up teller windows at the bank. My mom & I were in one lane. I look over at the other lane, and there's a guy (maybe in his 40's?) with long-ish natural hair, wearing some sort of bright floral women's top. I think there was something else about him/her, too, but I forget what. Make-up? Nails? Voice?

I couldn't tell you if they were partial CD'ing, a TS, or what. But it was definitely something along those lines. And that was literally the only instance I "saw one in the true wild." Ever.


Actually, scratch that. Just remembered: Make it twice.

I was at the mall, probably a teenager at the time. And I see a college-aged guy acting loud & obnoxious & goofy, strutting around & wearing something obviously-femmy... Want to say like a mini-skirt & neon bra or something. And a bit behind him were a group of guys around the same age who, from what I gathered, actually knew him, also acting loud & obnoxious in order to get people's attention. I got the impression that it was some sort of fraternity hazing thing going on, as there was a college really close by, and I seem to recall it was around early autumn.


Okay, twice. That's it.


Now, granted, I can be a bit of a workaholic, *and* a bit of a home-body introvert, which I suppose limits my exposure to this kind of stuff.

But still, should I be seeing more CD'ers out there? Because I really don't. And I've got a pretty keen eye, so I don't believe much, if anything, has gone undetected.


So, what's your experience been with this? Have you seen many of us out there in the *true* wild?

[dolovewell]

When out shopping, never

But on a daily basis when walking downtown I see at least 1 or 2 every day

[Alice Torn]

I would say a few times a year, i see one, possibly.

[Ressie]

Not often, but I just saw one today at Burlington coat factory. She probably had me pegged too since I never left the ladies dept. and walkd up to the cashier with two items!

[Alice_2014_B]

I saw one today at work at my temp. civilian job (grocery store).
He was not attempting to appear passable, just a guy in a matching skirt and top.

[josrphine]

Hi Laurababa, Come to the hard rock casino in Tampa Fl . I am there almost ever Sat. all day . Come over an say Hi an i will take you to the buffet for lunch or dinner. Jo

[lingerieLiz]

I saw one today. As I walked out of a store in a strip mall. She was walking toward the store and turned around as I walked through the door. Was over dressed which is what caught my eye. Older person white hair, jacket in 80+ degrees. and a very short mini skirt. At first I thought it might be an 80 something yr old woman. She seemed tentative about going in anywhere as she walked back and forth. About the time she got to the store I came out of she would see someone else coming out and turn around. It occurred to me that she was trying to get back to the other side to other stores.

[Tracii G]

I see them occasionally but I'm sure there are some that look like GG's that I miss.
I don't go out looking for them either.

[Teresa]

Laura,
Before going to meet others I recall seeing two.

One was on a trip to SF and I was sitting on the side seats of the cable car at the bottom of Market Street and looked down to see a perfectly dressed coloured woman she was enjoying the moment, somehow the smile we gave each other said we we both on the same page.

The other was in a grocery shop in the Lake District ( UK ) she was waiting to check out , very nicely dressed but I could see her getting more and more nervous as she waited , I wanted to catch up with her to have a word but I was too far back in the line .

[AnnieMac]

hmmm, maybe about only 5-6 times did I ever see what I was sure were cd girls out and about. Perhaps I may have seen more, but if they passed so well I wouldn't have noticed.

[CarlaWestin]

When out shopping, never But on a daily basis when walking downtown I see at least 1 or 2 every day

And this is why I think about retiring in Portland.

So, I live in Las Vegas. Supposedly a CD beehive. I've seen a few CD folks on vacation. An occasional transgender person.
And, the ever present lesbian couples that the male/female roles are clearly defined. Lot's of talk about LGBT acceptance and such.
But, there really isn't any kind of saturation. I see more of us in LV here on this site.

[dolovewell]

I used to live in Las Vegas and would much rather live there than Portland. I hate it here. I hate Seattle too, so I just want out of the region in general. Hopefully I will be moving in the next 6 months or so

[Pat]

It's a funny thing... I rarely see TG people out and about, but the people around me see at least one every day. Seriously, in the last couple of years I've seen a few of us out daywalking. In the decade before that I saw maybe two. It could be that we're starting to come out or it could be the well-known adage that you never realize how many yellow cars there are until you buy a yellow car. I hope it's the former.

[IleneD]

Denver/Boulder Colorado, DoLove. Colorado.
Good climate. Great scenery. Very open. Jobs.

I used to live in Las Vegas and would much rather live there than Portland. I hate it here. I hate Seattle too, so I just want out of the region in general. Hopefully I will be moving in the next 6 months or so

[NancySue]

Yes, I've seen a couple, one yesterday at (surprise) Walmart... very obvious. I believe I've seen many that I don't "read" because they blend in so well. This is my total objective. I study the local fashion climate to determine what to and not to wear. I do miss high heels and hose, but they do draw attention. I do not want attention. I sense others do, which is OK if that's their objective. My wonderful wife helps too. Sometimes, I wear too much eye makeup or a too bright red lipstick. I always appreciate and follow her advice. Being "read" would not be a good thing. For this reason, I mostly go out of town. Even though my wife is supportive, she worries about my being outed, i.e. flat tire, police, auto accident...things that might happen, no matter how careful I am. With all awareness, I need and continue to go out.

[barbara gordon]

I had three sightings this past week . One was at a dermatologist office where I saw an incredibly beautiful cd/t girl , next was at central park where I saw a cd/t girl riding a bike around the road loop - I was biking also but in drab . And next was at DSW where I was trying on shoes . I was dressed when I was at DSW , we made quick nodding eye contact but chose not to get into a big greeting or conversation , as we were both apparently more focused on the thousands of shoes !

I have been thinking about this a lot lately , looking at the whole experience from both sides - as drab or as dressed


I have been seeing more and more cd and tg girls out and about during daytime routines and errands . I can say its happening on an almost weekly basis . I live in nyc so the odds might be better than in a smaller town i guess.
often it happens when i am not dressed myself , but it has happened while I am in cd dress also. . There is always the question of wether or not approach her , I think its not really appropriate in most cases to make a comment about it unless i am dressed also. I have been thinking of making a business card or something for when i am in drab ,that says something like "I am like you too", or "i am a crossdresser too" or something to that effect . with my girl email added .... just thinking about what the best way to do this can be . I like to interact with people when I am dressed , but i don't think all cd girls feel that way when they are out daywalking.

[DutchCarla]

Only once at one of those Swedish furniture things. She behaved like a real bitch...
Might say more about me though: simply not aware enough about my surroundings. I'm an extrovert tech - meaning I will look at the point of YOUR shoes.

[Lily Catherine]

Exactly once in the "vanilla world", in broad daylight. Passable, although I'm not sure whether CD/TS. Not that that should be of concern.

[Rachel Morley]

In and around "vanilla" locations where I live, hardly ever. I think I've seen maybe half a dozen in the last 10 years mostly at the mall.

[sara66]

I have only had one sighting were I was sure. She was with her wife walking together, they moved like a couple, if you know what I mean. She look me n the eyes with kind of a surprised look. I just smiled and they moved off. There have been other were I was not sure. This is a testament on how well some of us can blend. With the Thousands of us out there we should see move of us out and about.

Sara

[Tracy Irving]

I read this thread last night. Knowing I was going to spend the day shopping with my wife, I decided to keep a watchful eye for anything suspicious. We went to a gas station, outlet mall, some big box stores and ate lunch at a sit down chain restaurant. The results of my observations are as follows: exactly zero noticeable cross dressers. I might need better cheater glasses.

[Nikki A.]

I've seen a few Cds around, but I wonder how many I may have missed because they didn't stand out or I wasn't paying attention. There are some of us that look so passable, that you would never guess. I know one girl who lost a Halloween Contest because they didn't believe she was not a girl (yes she looked that good).

[Dana44]

I have seen a few at Walmart. One was a couple and she looked happy with him. And a few others, some non-binary type also.

[Lorileah]

Define "CD". Do I see trans people? I dunno, never looked for them. Nunnamybusiness. Do they wear name tags? Of course I dunno what is in anyone's mind so... Have I seen transpeople? On occasion...but then again, I'm not sure, they may have been people who dressed a bit different than those around them, or people who for some unknown reason looked more masculine or feminine than the average person. Do you go hunting transpeople? It's sorta like deer, you don't see many until they run in front of your car and you have to swerve. How many 5'5" people did you see today? And when you say "CD" do you exclude the TSs like me who are out daily? Do you need 6" heels?

[ellbee]

Sorry, but I'm one of those hyper-observant freaks. I always instinctively absorb *all* my surroundings (people, places, things, sounds, actions, conversations, vibes, whatever), no matter where I am or what I'm doing.

So, no, I don't intentionally go "hunting." I was born this way.


I feel my OP made it pretty clear that I wasn't sure what was going on with the person at the bank. And the guy at the mall? Do legit trans-people typically act like that in such a particular situation? Come on, LOL.


Yes, my thread was started because of all these *CD'ers* here who go out & about, wherever & for whatever reason, into the vanilla world, who then subsequently share their stories & sometimes even provide photographic "proof."

Naturally, the question arises: How often do others see this?

That's all.