Do you grow out your beard before you dress shop?
Dose it fool anyone or make it more obvious?
I find it easer to buy girly stuff after I let my beard grow for at least a week.
Do you grow out your beard before you dress shop?
Dose it fool anyone or make it more obvious?
I find it easer to buy girly stuff after I let my beard grow for at least a week.
"This is ME" I am not CRAZY, I'm just a GUY who likes dresses!
Since allot of men dress up in woman's clothing that makes it a manly thing to do!
Much more fun than fishing.
I do construction like house building and I love CD-ing, what's the difference?
Well, uh, no. There've been times that after work, I'm at the thrift store in my work uniform with a bit of a shadow showing.
But, I'm only interested in the arm full of dresses and handful of bras.
I've waited so long for this time. Makeup is so frustrating. Shaking hands and I look so old. This was a mistake.
My new maid's outfit is cute. Sure fits tight.
And then I step into the bedroom and in the mirror, I see a beautiful woman looking back at me.
Smile, Honey! You look fabulous!
In my experience dress shopping, I've only worn male clothing, so my beard (at least the shadow thereof) has been grown to varying lengths depending on how long I want to keep it. It doesn't make it any less obvious that I'm buying a dress / jeans / lingerie / whatever.
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At this point I've got a tightly trimmed goatee and moustache so my answer is yes.
I think I'd even dress/clothing shop clean shaven (waiting for that day-in the closet at this point and my wife likes the facial hair)
I don't even give it a second thought. I've shopped in a goatee, clean shaven, three day growth etc. I prefer clean shaven so if I try something on the beard doesn't become a distraction.
I am usually clean shaved. It looks better when you are trying things on. I stop worrying about what the SA think and just go for it. It beats wasting time and money in stuff that doesn't fit or looks bad.
Sara
I guess I buy some things with a shadow or a weeks growth but since I really don't shop for dresses then no. I have bought cosmetics with a grizzly old looking fart of a beard and even some panty hose.
I shave every day (my face). I don't wear a beard. So no, I don't grow a beard to shop. I don't even think about it.
Similar to Krisi, I shave pretty much every day as I prefer to be clean shaven. As such, I shop for whatever it is I want while clean shaven.
Karen
When shopping in male mode I just shop. I don't care what others think. If anyone asks I just be honest and say its for me. I think that's a lot easier and I get better reactions than when I say I am shopping for my wife or GF.
28 years old, 6' tall, 155 pounds
Measurements: 33 bust-28 waist-37 hips
Dress Size: 6, Bra Band Size: 34
I shop in guy mode,but I don't try anything on,and I don't even ask too.
I just make sure to throw in some manly stuff like a wrench, some motor oil & some fishing gear, in hopes that it does a good-enough job in detracting.
Then I'll just point out that the dress is for my really hot GF -- but she's not with me at the moment because, um, she lives in Canada.
(I'm joking, of course. )
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Always clean shaved, not really CD related, just prefer it that way.
Here today, gone tomorrow....
My femme shopping is unrelated to the state of my beard growth. Of course I'm always in drab so it doesn't matter.
Jenn A --- nothing fancy, just me.
I'm confused. Why would letting my beard grow help me fool anyone. Wouldn't that just make putting on foundation a huge mess?
Oh in boy mode? But I wouldn't be fooling anyone when I went to try it on! Wait, you mean buy something "for my wife"? I'll buy a top, or pretty lingere, or something like that, but not a dress for her. And who cares if your clean shaven at that point.
Uh can I buy this for my wife. Well what size is she. Uh about my height....and weight...But with boobs. Well it's a good thing you have a goatee, otherwise, I would say that they were for you, and that would be ewww so pervy!. Yeah, good thing!
Nope. I always shop in drab but I go clean shaven and dressed in "business casual" being as inconspicuous as possible. Clean and well groomed - just an average guy who happens to enjoy wearing women's clothing.
I already passed the stage that I said the clothes were for my sister or girlfriend. Now I directly say to the clerk that they are for me, and so far I have had no problem and the attention I feel is much better now because I feel now that the females clerks in the stores see me more like a girl than a man.
Karla
Depends on the time of year. Right now it is deer hunting season. So I have a beard. In a month I may not.
So Judy, I take it that by doing this you believe that the store workers are less inclined to believe you are a cross dresser?
How many other men were shopping for dresses the last time you went?
How many men do you really think shop for dresses for their GF or wife?
Now, what do you think is the typical image of a cross dresser in the mind of your average sales clerk in the women's department? Rue Paul? That guy who won the Euro singing contest? Does a beard limit their imagination when you walk up with your size 12, 16, 22, dress?
I will posit that if one were an obvious size 12, but buying a size 00, you'd likely get the nod of buying for a wife/GF. Anything close to your actual size and it's for you.
As an aside to the topic here's a funny anecdote. I got tripped up by that fact when buying a birthday gift for my sister. I was shopping at a store that I had bought things for myself at...but I hadn't directly said they were for me. (It was some time between 97 and 2001 I think) Now if I had been asked directly, I would have said yes. So there I was buying a gift, think it was a dress. And my sister and I have similar builds. I'm slightly taller, with bigger shoulders, she's more apple-y but we're pretty close in size.
The SA takes the item I'd found, and says "And who might this be for?" In a very knowing voice with a very knowing look in her eye. And like an idiot...I told the truth: "it's for my sister".
The moment I said that, I internally facepalmed. I KNEW what I had done. Given one of the standard flimsy crossdresser excuses: "It is for wife/sister/etc." Yes it was true in this circumstance, but the SA didn't know that.
The SA smirked and then gave me a look that said. "I know you're buying this for you, you crossdresser you." I was so flummoxed and embarassed that I didn't say anything else.
What I should have said after that was: "Not shopping for me, this time, this really is a birthday gift. Wasn't really looking out for anything for myself...maybe next time."
Of course now if someone asked me that: "Yes, it's for me." But I probably wouldn't have to do that, I get spotted as trans fairly quickly even in guy mode. Some years back I Asked one Lane Bryant SA how she spotted me when I was shopping in guy mode after she asked "Find anything, can I start you a dressing room?" She laughed and said it was how I looked at, touched and interacted with the clothing, like a woman and not a "clueless" man....and also the hair. She said a non-trans man buying a gift wouldn't have touched the things, pulled them off the rack and looked at them like I did. And she said she was happy that I was forthright and honest about it, and she mentioned all the obvious CD's who came in who were too scared to admit it. She was a great SA, found a nice pair of trousers for me, similar to ones my sister had that I liked. (but the ones my sister had were discontinued and were more flattering)
Veronica
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Absolutely not, I hate facial hair and try to always be clean shaven. Just looks wrong on my face
Beards are not for me. I strive to get the the closest shave possible; that entails using a straight razor....daily
When I go dress shopping in drab, I don't even think about what my beard looks like. But when I'm dressed, I try to make sure I'm shaven. I feel like a beard doesn't go with a feminine look, even though I don't try to pass.