This has been bothering me on this forum for a while now, there's a whole lot of Holier Than Thou, you're not CD, Trans, etc. enough going on in recent posts. It's childish and shameful. Seriously, where does this garbage come from? Some examples. A person posts about the irony of wearing women's underclothes while doing a decidedly manly task. The responses? "That's not ironic because no clothes are showing" and "grow your own boobs because forms are a cop-out", etc. Or how about the person that posts about being nervous going out for a drive while dressed and gets blasted with (and I'm paraphrasing here) stop being a chicken, you're a coward if you're not going out fully femme in day light and interacting with others. Or my favorite, someone posts about non-binary transition including HRT and gets the "HRT is a binary thing, if you're going on HRT its because you're trying to be a woman".
What gives people? We are a community that is supposed to be here to support each other are we not? We're brought together by common needs and identities that society at large considers unacceptable, unpalatable, freakish or even perverse. So who are we to be judging one another? I came to this board a few months ago looking for a place to chat with like-minded, like-identified people who would be friendly an open. And for the most part, that's what I've found. But there are some posts out there that I find atrocious in their judgment, in their negation of others' experiences, in their close-mindedness.
I'm not suggesting that we shouldn't challenge each other. I'm not suggesting that disagreement is bad, quite the opposite really. However, I have to really wonder where this crap is coming from. We seem to have lost sight of the fact that we're all on our own journey, we're all in different stages of that journey, and while you may think that someone who is not as far along is naive and bothersome, it's still a big deal for them. I'm also wondering if some of the garbage like that is coming from people who are faking it on the forum. In other words, exaggerate or outright lie about the level to which they're out, the experiences they've had, etc. in order to prop themselves up further by putting others down.
So here's a big WTF? I'm really becoming disappointed with some people who early on I thought were role models for the rest of us. I see that bullies exist here just like in the real world, so apparently this is not much safer a place (except here we're separated by miles and relative anonymity). Can we please stop falling into the same judgmental cesspool that often infects the LGBT community as a whole and instead remember that we're all people here with similar but also different experiences, needs, desires, etc. and as such treat each other with a basic level of respect?