From your other post, it seems like your wife is really understanding with your dressing. Perhaps she really is tired. Help her out with chores around the house, if you aren't already doing so. Give her some quiet time to unwind after work and maybe take a short weekend trip out of town to relax. Sometimes being away from the usual grind is enough to get things going again.
You left out one important point - How old is your wife? Women go through menopause at different times but often around age fifty. Their natural productions of hormones changes and the "horny" one is usually the first to go. If she is anywhere near middle age, she should see her doctor to have her hormone levels checked. There are specialists who can prescribe replacement hormones which may help with this.
There are other things of course that can affect a woman's sex drive. Her job or other responsibilities, lack of self esteem from growing older or losing her looks or figure, etc.
Fighting is not going to help, that's the last thing you should do. Perhaps counseling would help. At the very least, keep telling her (and showing her) that you love and appreciate her. Complimenting her on her looks from time to time wouldn't hurt either.
I feel your pain. I was in the same boat. My wife encouraged my dressing and helped me be me. We also had an open marriage. Our sex life was great then slowly dwindled down to almost non existent, but she found time to be with other men. She ultimately replaced me with her main FWB and walked out on me. Sorry for the rant, just watch your back. My wife was telling me she was in love with me all the way up to the day she walked out. Women are the best liars. Good luck to you.
For me, a healthy relationship includes intimacy.
I know we can get busy in our 40's with work etc, but I made time for my (ex)wife - who never found time for me.
I found time to walk away, I also found a new wife.
Our laws, make it easy to split everything 50/50 and go our own way
See all my photos, read many stories of my outings and my early days at
http://rachelsauckland.blogspot.co.nz
If you can trace the lack of intimacy to the beginning of cross dressing, then cross dressing is probably at the root of the problem. Throw in the concept of an open marriage, and, then there is an open invitation to seek intimacy elsewhere. If your wife can get satisfying sex with another man or woman sure she can tell you to indulge in whatever makes you happy. Yeah, there may be some truth to being worn out from work stress and other facets of life, but, isn't that suppose to be offset by intimacy. And, most women will tell you it is more than just hopping into bed and having wild sex. A little hand holding maybe? Or walking on the beach? Maybe, the cross dressing has tilted her over the edge to being fulfilled elsewhere without the mental image of her husband wearing a dress. I think the vast majority of women, whether they say are supportive or tolerant, just do not like the mental image, real or imaginary, of their husbands in a dress.
Once a woman sees her male mate in a dress, it can destroy any image she has of him as a sexually desirable male. Once that's gone, you're done. Just hope she doesn't replace you with another guy to satisfy her sexual needs.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
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