So I just started dating a CD. We met at a party he was hosting. By the way he was dressed, which was very effeminate, I suspected, but amid our flirting and drinking, he told me flat out. It didn't faze me. He since told me and showed me a bit. He completely shaves everything (legs, arms, pits, and naughty bits) and he told me about a couple taboo fetishes he has. I find it all intriguing and very hot. He does crossfit, and I have a thing for thighs, so him in a pair of yoga pants... on a scale of one to even, I literally can't, haha. And he finds it utterly refreshing to be with someone who lets him be completely himself without judgment.
He doesn't CD in public because he said he hasn't had the support he needs. So I told him we should go on a date with him dressed up, so we're excited for that later this week. In the meantime, he's coming over tonight and I have questions but am not sure which to ask or how to ask some. I don't want to ask any that may offend him, so any feedback is helpful, just to know if these are okay to ask early on.
I know that he's completely straight. He's told me that he doesn't find men attractive and he very much loves women. He just also feels like he is one. So a lesbian in a very cute boy's body, is basically how we decided that was best explained. In that regard, I want to ask about his gender identity and if he has a female name that he's given himself. I feel like those are safe questions to ask.
I'm also curious about the origin of it. He's very much into youthful clothing, as is part of his fetishes. Frilly socks, cotton panties with bows, lace camis, pigtails, etc. For both him and it's what he finds sexy on a partner. He was explicit about not having any interest in doing anything with young girls, but fantasies and role playing, it's that genre. And I'm down with that, but I am curious is this is rooted in something from his childhood. This seems like maybe not a good question for early. Or maybe ever? I will say, though, that we have been very open in talking about both the good and bad in our lives, so I know for sure he is both open to sharing deep things about himself and feels safe doing so with me, and vise versa.
I guess that's the only questions I have at the moment. I'm really excited to get to know more about him and cross dressing and to be part of this experience with him. It seems others haven't been as open or accepting, so it's really great for us both.