Certainly!
I've tried to quit several times over the years because this thing that I deal with is so inconvenient.
It did not work. It will never work, I know that now. So, I am back in for good and deeper than ever.
Jeri
Certainly!
I've tried to quit several times over the years because this thing that I deal with is so inconvenient.
It did not work. It will never work, I know that now. So, I am back in for good and deeper than ever.
Jeri
Interesting question. I have tried, I have purged it lasted about a year and then the pink mist rolled in like a tornado and to be honest I am glad it did
I'll not purge again as lost some beautiful things, I will thin things out as needed
Abbey
OMG!! Owning my femininity .... and I LOVE it!
Hi Sarah, Dressing is like being in the Mafia, You just can't quit ! ......
Having my ears triple pierced is AWESOME, ~~......
I can explain it to you, But I can't comprehend it for you !
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Be careful what you wish for, Once you ring a bell , you just can't Un-Ring it !! !!
I took a different approach. Almost forty years ago I promised myself that I would not stop dressing and I have never broken that vow.
As long as there are women out there that I can be jealous of , then giving up for any period is virtually impossible.
I know I did 40 plus years ago. Can't remember how many times or how long each lasted. Now when the desire comes on I dress. When it "wears off" everything goes back in the garage, sometimes for a year or more.
Steph
No matter how hard you will try it llĀ“ come back to you. More you try to resist, stronger it become
"Do not care what others think, do what you must" - Javik, ME3
I pretty much agree with Sometimes Miss. Your ability to rid crossdressing or cross gender behavior depends on where your desires and needs come from. If it is purely recreational and/or habitual then you should be able to quit. But my sense is that for most of us the desire and need is much deeper than that and more a matter of being a part of who we are. If gender variance does follow a spectrum from, say, underdressing to a complete transition, and that spectrum exists because of fundamental personality traits and characteristics, actually quitting would be next to impossible without a lot of adverse effects such as bouts of severe depression and gut wrenching dysphoria. But I do think most of us can quit for awhile, as many have said, but permanently is another matter altogether. I have fought it for over half a century and did not express that way for long periods. But it always came back and often stronger than before. When I was 8 I wanted to be a girl. That desire kinda, sorta went away for very long periods, but the identity associated with that desire always remained lurking in the shadows of other things in my life. I have finally achieved a point of saying, "Hey there, you might as well come out in the light and lets get acquainted." Now both identities exist in a blended fashion much of the time or pop out according to circumstances. I find it quite useful to have two identities even though management is difficult. And it doesn't depend on what I am wearing. I can bring each one up or both together depending on the situation. However, when Gretchen is 90% of who I am, expressing in drab upsets her quite a bit (the source of dysphoria). So, if that continues, at the first opportunity it is off to the stash and she feels much, much better.
Gretchen
Over the decades I have tried to stay in the closet for years at a time but the worst part is that when I break out I tend to go further than I did when last dressed. I call it the sling shot effect. So going into the closet does not work and we all better find a good place to get through this life as we know it or it will be a very rocky road.
I've been CDing most of my life. When I met my g/f (now wife), and things became serious, I decided that I would give it up permanently, hence purge.
That lasted for a few years, but CDing was always at the back of my mind. When we bought a house and moved in together, the urge was really strong, but I held on. Eventually I went back to my old ways, which was buying women's clothes and hiding them in various places in the basement.
At that time, I didn't find this forum (or maybe it didn't exist yet), but another CDing forum someone posted this : you cannot hide CDing from your SO forever, it is only a matter of time before they find out. After that, I made another purge, I didn't quit CDing I just didn't want my g/f to find out. Then I got hit with medical issues, I received my first treatment and it seemed to go ok so I got back into buying women's clothing (again), but the treatment didn't stick so I suspended it. So after 10 years dealing with hospitals, I am finally ok and now I can share Wendy with my wife.
I cannot quit permanently, Wendy is part of my life and I have come to accept her.
I don't know how long I can go but I'm going to try right now.
"This is ME" I am not CRAZY, I'm just a GUY who likes dresses!
Since allot of men dress up in woman's clothing that makes it a manly thing to do!
Much more fun than fishing.
I do construction like house building and I love CD-ing, what's the difference?
I haven't tried to stop and doubt it will ever happen against my desires (unless there are physical health issues). However, I could see my crossdressing come to a "retirement" stage some day when my interest in it decreases. Could possibly be a Barry Sanders retirement or a Bret Favre retirement. My crossdressing is all about having fun, if the fun is not there any more it will be an unsaid goodbye. May do a few kicks at the can to see if any fun 'sparks' reappear though
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When I was younger I purged a few times and sometimes lasted as long as 3 months before I was buying stockings or panties and beginning again.
Now that I have come out (10 years ago) that thought never crosses my mind. My clothes are in the closet instead of me and it is such a wonderful feeling to be free of all that guilt that caused me such pain. It's also nice to know that I'm no longer throwing away clothes that I love and wasting all that money.
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
Similar to Alice, my lack of dressing has been situational not because of lack of desire...that seems to be there all the time.
Sorry, I started at 65 why would I want to quit now. No spouse, live with my accepting daughter ( who does not want to see daddy in a dress) who works week days when I am mostly off work! My son lives an hour away and accepts but will not dress in front of him or his family for now! No reason to quit for now or in the forseeable future! Best wishes Hugs Lana Mae
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Stopped dressing when my now ex-wife 'left me for a real man'. Lasted 3 1/2 years. Desire/need to dress returned with a vengeance 4 years ago. I've learned a lot from the impact of my dressing on my previous marriage and have been much more thoughtful of my wife's attitude and feelings in my 3rd (and forever) marriage.
I'v tried a few times over the years because of guilt and self-loathing (purging with full regret). Failed due to the stress it caused me.
Now that I can dress as I like and don't have to hide my clothes in a box in the basement, I am much happier.
I'm not saying that people who "retire" can't do it permanently. I'm saying it wasn't possible for me. I could possibly find different method of dealing with the anxiety of my dysphoria, but what I do doesn't hurt anyone so I'm happy to dress as a woman when I can.
They/Them
I love dressing as a woman.
I have never tried to stop and I don't believe that i would be able to live a happy life if I tried. BUT I do believe that anyone can do anything they put their mind to, but can you stop and be happy... in my opinion no. I lost all desires for 4 years but it was not in anyway due to wanting to stop, she just left me.
A.K.A Rebecca & Bec
I have stopped whenever I started a new relationship with a female, but it wears out quickly. I cannot and now will not stop, it would make no sense.
No regrets except I should have got dressed & stepped out sooner.
Yes, pretty successfully for 10 years. I think it can be done. You may still have the desire occasionally, but you CAN chose what you will do with it.
For me I tired to stop whenever I stated a new relationship and purge. But went though many relationships as I was quite different and many seemed to let me dress once or twice. LOL but they did not like it. Through my lean years I tried men and was girlfriend on one. That was kinda nice but men do not want nice relationships like that and it dissolves when it gets old. Now I am with a GG and she loves me as I am. Even when I am dressed she tells me she is close to me and loves me. Women are the better half of a relationship. They say you finally meet your soul mate.
Part Time Girl
Quitting is easy I've done it a million times. Ok old joke but it's true.
From 18 to about 34 I went through phases of dressing then quit then went back. I went cold turkey during my first marriage until she was out of town for a week. Then I started dressing in secret but got caught. So after my divorce I started up again and have been dressing to some degree for 10 years now. My current wife is supportive of it so it's easier to accept myself now and no plans on purging ever again.
Sounds about right. There may have been a lingering desire sometimes during my non crossdressing period, but it was always very transitory, like when seeing an outfit like ones I had worn before. Never anything strong enough to make me keep thinking about it. Recently gave it up for about a year or so, but realized that there was no reason to restrict myself from something that felt good.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
It may be like an alcoholic. They may give up drinking and go the rest of their lives without a drink. But they still consider themselves alcoholics. It is there every day of their lives. This is no different.
I went long and extended periods of time without dressing or even thinking about it. But eventually, due to circumstances or just the natural progression of life, my mind came back to it and I finally gave in, embraced who and what I really am. That is I am a damn good person who has male and female portions of my personality (predominantly male, but a very needy female component). There are no pat answers, we are all different, with different feelings about this, different reasons for this, different circumstances and different levels of willpower.
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I found the only time I tried to stop wearing anything feminine was when I was in total denial and in total confusion over my perceived sexuality. Back in the 1960's society seem to proclaim that crossdresser were homosexuals, although the terminology was crude.....queer, faggot, fruit, pansy...etc. Every time I wore something of my mother's I swore it was the last time until it wasn't the last time. There was only one time when I was totally free of any thoughts of wearing women's clothing. I was drafted into the army and spent two years in an almost totally male environment. There was training and more training and finally a trip across the pond to Vietnam....wounded twice doing the "manly thing." I also did not feel any pull towards men. I would best described my stint for most of the time as totally asexual.
My stint in the army and a combat environment did do something for me. It gave me some sense of my sexual identity....totally straight. It also seems logical to me that hormonal action come into play. Although I ascribe to the notion all men and women possess some DNA of the non-birth sex, it can be suppressed or accentuated when necessary. In a combat situation the hormones of male preservation were dominant and suppressed any thoughts inconsistent with it.
So why did the desires return? I think it is in my DNA and there is a need not to be suppressed.