Ugh! While at my inlaws, my wife just stumbled across picks of me dolled up

[nikkiwindsor]

Since I'm at my inlaws with loads of relatives I only have a couple minutes to post...Ugh! While taking pics of my kids with my smart phone (without my knowing) my wife just stumbled across some pics of me all dolled up...I've not wished for my wife to see my pics!...more to come

[Micki_Finn]

Ooops! Hope it turns out for the best.

[alwayshave]

While my SO knows, so I don't have to hide. However, I keep my phone on lock down with a thumb print or 8 digit code to open.

[immindy]

She may not know it is you . Some years ago my wife came across a picture of me . She knew I dressed some during that time but not to what extent and had never seen me dressed. She wondered who the woman was and Why I had her picture on my computer . I just said " look more closely " and smiled.

[ronniegirl]

While I pass code protect my phone as well, l I go one step further by making sure I have a generic picture of almost anything that I place in first position in my crossdressing picture folder, so that if I accidentally pull up the picture gallery app that is what one would see. Gives me that precious time to quickly switch ..and no ones the wiser...lol

[DIANEF]

Oh Dear!! been debating if I should put some pics of myself on my phone, seems it might not be such a good idea....hope the fallout isn't too bad.

[CarlaWestin]

Well Nikki, I hope the comment was, "Oh My, are you sure that's you? You're gorgeous!" and not, "Are you effing kidding me!!?"

[sara66]

I use a photo vault called p-calc . It is a functioning calculator and when you enter the pass code you have a gallery & camera. It does not even record the camera had been used. the only down side is you can use a selfie stick.
Sara

[Lana Mae]

Best of luck with this, Nikki! As the others say it is not as bad as her not already knowing! Special hugs Lana Mae

[ElleStreet]

I was telling a my family a story about something that'd happened to me this Christmas which required me to show them a photo. There were 5ish people around my phone and one reached out to swipe to the next photo(rude imo). I was mortified and jerked the phone away. I was a second away from my step-family seeing me in either lingerie or a bodycon dress (both with full makeup and wig) depending on the swipe direction :P

[Rogina B]

...I've not wished for my wife to see my pics!...more to come

Nikki, Considering the thread that you have going in the TG forum,what the heck is the big deal? What part of "forthcoming" do you want to be?

[Abbey11]

Oooh! I hope things go well x

[Rachael Leigh]

Nikki I too keep some of my pictures on my phone, my wife has seen some of them, I do hope this will help with further discussion with her and not make it bad

[IleneD]

Nikki:

I pray things smooth out for you on this. Your experience parallels the one key unforced error I made following my "coming out" (last summer).
I had The Talk with the SO. The road to "acceptance" appeared to be paved. And that went well for a month or so.

I had some photos of myself, dressed; some of which were taken on an iPhone (w iCloud). During a transfer to permanent storage to a flash drive (for safe keeping), a couple were left on The Cloud, and were also transferred to another USB drive inadvertently.
My daughter and granddaughter were visiting from back East. The Wife connected one of our flash drives to the TV to do a photo slide show of family pictures (as background music and scenery for the day). Lo and behold, 2 photos magically appeared on the big screen of grandpa in his (beautiful) long blue dress, and another in his LBD and heels. I wasn't in the room at the time, but the SO and my daughter let me know about it. My granddaughter is only 6 and it didn't entirely register with her but she DID recognize that ".. that's Boppa in a dress." We'll see how long it lasts.

The SO was furious at the error (and embarrassment). It was entirely careless on my part (photo transferring and custody). The SO didn't mind seeing it, but was quite upset that the "family news" leaked out carelessly. This was a very important lesson in properly managing my CD Life and my marriage relationship. Keep tight control of your newfound identity. Not everyone needs to know. Not everyone will react as you wish or expect. This is a lot like dealing with classified material in the military (and I should have known better).

My daughter and I talked about it. She's an adult in her 30s, educated. She understands and even gets a little chuckle about it; making jokes with me about my affinity for women's clothing. The granddaughter has no memory of it, and has proceeded being a 6 yr old. The SO keeps it in the back of her mind hoping I don't inadvertently "embarrass" her again.

Good luck Nikki. Love ya', girl.

[Laurana]

Well, that's what happens when you leave pics on your phone. Somebody is bound to see them.

I know that nobody but me uses my phone and I still hide all my pics. Or I send them to my computer and delete them from the phone.

[kkaye]

I was outed with my girl friend in a similar way when, I did not log out. She was sitting in front of my lap top dazed. She said what in the **** is this. I came clean. It is a part of me she lives with but, I do not dress up around her. I am taking her one step at a time. The good thing is we wear the same size shoes
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[rachel_rachel]

My wife knows, my kids know.. I choose for the kids not to see because I didn't teach them to be biggots.
In saying that too.. they know that daddy's things are daddy's things and you don't touch.
My wife would use her phone for pictures before using mine anyway.

[ClosetED]

And don't forget the Recently Deleted folder has to be deleted as well

[Jenniferathome]

Nikki, she knew already. Take this opportunity to open up your DADT status.

[Phillipa1uk]

Hope everything is ok today with you being 'outed'

I see your online as I type so maybe it is ok?

[nikkiwindsor]

My wife and I are still visiting relatives so we haven't had an opportunity to talk further about my pics. When everything settles down and we get back home I look forward to talking to her in great detail about the pics. Hopefully, she'll be open to meeting my feminine side in person. I don't have a different personality when I'm transformed but I am more compassionate and content.

[Stephanie47]

From a recent post you indicated your wife is aware of your cross dressing. Further you indicated there was some ongoing discussion concerning shaving your body hair. So, your adventure has just accelerated. Your picture postings indicate you do doll up to an attractive woman. Maybe with the cat out of the bag she will not have some mental image of a hairy guy in a dress looking terrible. It could lead to a Happier New Year. I would suggest you do some password protection. What if your in-laws grabbed the phone instead? Looking forward to an update.

[~Joanne~]

I will never understand why some of you girls are so careless with your clothes, shoes, pictures and whatever else you just leave around or give people access to. Part of me thinks you want to get caught to get it out there but I would suggest you do it another way, things like this usually don't end well. When my SO is going to use the camera for anything she always asks if Joanne is on the memory card lol It's not because she hasn't seen them (usually she is the one that took them) but in case she has to look at the pictures while using it with other people around they don't get a peek and ask a million questions she may not be able to answer..

Be smart Girls, hide your stuff better, stop being lazy and leaving it under the bed or whatnot. I know You want to tell your wives and such but there has GOT to be a better way.

[Sara Jessica]

I will never understand why some of you girls are so careless with your clothes, shoes, pictures and whatever else you just leave around or give people access to.

So true. This is why God invented password protection for your phone.

[Gabriella111]

I use the Keepsafe app for locking away pictures I don't want others to see. Hope things turn out well!