Zooey,
I did say "might " in that sentence but if we had separated we agreed I would move away to give me a chance of a new life, it was the only way we could see it working. She wasn't going to cut me off niether were the children, but that was the plan before the event and not after.
As for the honesty issue , we had another talk and again I tried to be open and honest but she just draws the line . It is a part of me that she doesn't want to know about.
As I've said before I have to work round her , if she knew about the forum, the number of people I've come out to and my pictures that so many have seen, I'm sure it would be all over anyway. She possibly doesn't want to go down that road and can live with what she does and doesn't know.