In other words (and yes, I know I'm assuming a lot here), these friends and others like them expect that a MTF crossdresser should be meeting these new standards. Like, "Well, if you're going to crossdress/be trans/whatever, at least do it right. Put some effort into it."
It's coincidental you say that Christina because in that TG/non-binary thread I mentioned I gave this comment.
I still stand by that statement. I don't like that look but perhaps, like much of society, I still have some personal growth to achieve.