What to do, I'm confused?

[Dinsdale]

Thank you all for your comments.
I appreciate the advice.
I do not personally know and pre op TS
Thinking about it and reading advice from all the great people on here, I think it is only a fantasy.
I thought about it, would I still be sexually attracted to a transsexual once she has completed gender reassignment? Probably no.
I think I would also be sexually attracted to passable transvestites, would I be attracted to them once they resumed dressing as a man? - No.
I strongly admire transsexuals who know they were born into the wrong body and take steps to to become the person they want to be.i think stronger focus on trans issues in the media , have highlighted this.
I am in my late forties and this would be my second marriage , but my attraction to pre op transsexuals have become stronger over my later years. Maybe this is due to porn being a lot more accessible?
If I look at porn it is only on Trans sites, I don't search straight or gay porn.
I dearly love my fiancée , and we have a great times together , and are very compatible with similar outlook on the world , but my sexual thoughts trouble me , in the fact I don't want to go down the marriage route , and hurting her if my desires are more than a fantasy.
Hope you all have a great new year

[Tracii G]

Please don't let trans porn addiction come between you and your lady.
Fantasies are fine but realizing its a fantasy and not reality is what you need to remember.

[I Am Paula]

Docrobbysherry. I've read your post for years, and this one is the first that made me say WTF are you talking about. Something about transwomen seeming femme, or not, and then it got even more out there.
I suspect alcohol was involved.

[Lorileah]

That is your opinion, Paula. But, not mine. Most T's, include a few that transitioned, didn't seem all that fem to me. However, I have met a number of T's that acted just as fem, or more so, than GG women I have known.

I have no idea what you are saying here but if you are saying what I think you are saying you better because you are gonna catch a whole lotta flack

In RE OP: Your idea of a "pre-op" TS isn't real. Write down what you think you want, read it twice and burn the paper...never to be spoken again. I agree with Paula...you have a unicorn fantasy

[docrobbysherry]

I don't think u got what I meant. I didn't say it plainly. But, in trying to be politically correct my post ended up being uncomprehensable. I didn't intend to offend anyone. So, rather than possibly screw up again? I'll just say, "Happy New Year everyone!"

[jennifer0918]

Look mate too much porn is not healthy, a lot of those actress on those porn sites are being exploited for the reason that some ts woman are not given the same opportunity like any other human being ,of a job,health care,and a livable wage.Many don't want to do porn but have no choice ,it's how they make a living.I look at trans woman for ideas on how to improve my femme look and not look at them as object of ultimate desire ,some are not into crossdressers and are not into bisexuals ask and they will tell you they want a heterosexual man married ..

[CherylFlint]

I’d say keep your feet planted on earth.
Figure out what’s important: most people become less selfish as they mature.
Good luck.

[Lana Mae]

IMHO You need to share all this with your lady and be totally honest! Best wishes going forward! Hugs Lana Mae

[mona lisa]

I am engaged to a lovely woman , whom I love very much .
She knows about my crossdressing and fully accepts it , as I was upfront when we first dated.
The problem I have , is I will marry her in 2017, but I find myself being very attracted to Pre op transsexuals. I have always admired their strength ad determination to transition to the women they want to be, but now I feel sexually attracted to them.
I have never acted on this desire.
Is this just a fantasy?
I acknowledge I am possibly bisexual, but that's no big deal.
Should I dismiss these thoughts or put off the wedding , until I work through this confusion?
If I do , I would ensure I am upfront with my fiancée.
I love her and don't want to hurt her , but I can't help my desire.
Would love to hear your thoughts.

A lot of folks on these threads would love to have a woman as understanding and acceptable as your fiancee is. Think long and hard about that before you ruin it by chasing some fleeting whim.

[Dinsdale]

Thanks all for your comments and advice,
I don't want to lose my fiancée as she means the world to me, I think I will keep this just a fantasy and keep it to myself.
I am very grateful that she has Such an open mind and allows me to dress freely at home ( no outside dressing ).
i am happy I also have the opportunity to discuss these things on this forum.
Cheers

[AllieSF]

You have gotten some very good advise so far. I will now offer mine. If your desires are bothering you, which you have said that they are twice in this thread, then your best source for a good opinion is from a therapist, not from us. We are giving you unprofessional opinions. If you are daydreaming, you do not need any help. However, the last thing you want to do is get into a long term committed relationship and then find that your once occasional fantasy is now a driving need. You cannot predict the future, so why not get some qualified help now from a professional just to make sure of what this desire really is. If you were not already in a committed relationship, I would recommend that you go out and try it a few times. If you want more, you have your answer, if it does nothing for you, maybe trying it has killed your fantasy. If you are still not sure, then just be realistic and know that you may need some help later in your married life to prevent or stop you from cheating on your partner. I do wish you the best of luck.