First, hello ladies! It has been forever since I have posted anything on here. I've been away for a while. I hope to visit more often as time permits.
I have known my BFF since we were in first grade. So I have known him for a LONG time (32 years!). I think of him like a brother. I treat him like a brother, for that matter.
My Girlfriend and my BFF's wife are very close friends as well.
I am very secretive about Amy. There are only a handful of people who know about my feminine alter ego. None of my family and close friends know. I keep it this way because I feel that it would serve them no purpose to know. It would only serve my own purpose. There are other reasons too (single father). I could write a book on that. So, I keep Amy hidden and bring her out on special occasions when I can.
My (very supportive) girlfriend called me today and told me that she thinks I need to come out to my BFF. She said that he needs to know about Amy. I went into panic mode immediately. I feared that someone had spilled the beans and I was going to be outed. Naturally I asked her why.... She hesitated and had to think about what she was going to say next (I'm panicking). She then tells me that my BFF is transgender and wants to come out this year. He wants to start taking hormones and living as a woman. I'm in shock. I never saw this coming? How did I miss the signs? I'm in the club, and I know so many trans and CD folks. I never in a million years thought he had a feminine side to him at all. I missed it.
My BFF's wife had told my girlfriend about his desire to come out. He was afraid of how I would react, and feared that I would not be accepting. So he had his wife tell me about it instead. Apparently his wife has known this for 15 years now and is 100% accepting of it all. So I told her about Amy, and it just rolled from there. They weren't as shocked about me being a CD. I had long hair, pierced ears... shave my legs and arms, keep my eyebrows plucked and arched in a feminine style. Yeah... they weren't as shocked as I was.
I talked to him this evening about all of this. He really seems dead set on starting hormones. I explained to him that he really needs to think about that and talk with a therapist before he starts taking them. I know most of us have had these same thoughts. Its so easy to get lost in that pink fog and jump in head first without a second thought. It worries me that he is so eager all at once (or I may be misreading that as well). He has never left his house dressed. There are some definite steps that need to be made before he starts taking hormones. I hope that I can help guide him through this pink fog safely.
What are the chances that we both would be in this same boat and never knew it for 32 years? I'm excited to have my BFF on this journey.
I plan on introducing him to some of my transgender friends and taking him to a couple of meetings that I attend. 2017 is bringing wonderful surprises already!