CDs are sometimes called sissies, though I realize there is a distinctive difference. Do you find the term sissy derogatory? I also realize the context and delivery of the term, affects the intent. Whenever Vanessasissy posts, and I presume she does not find it derogatory, I have wondered what other CDs think about it.
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I think it's a subset of CD's, and has further divisions. Generally seems to apply to the submissive mindset.
I think that among ourselves sissy can be a term of endearment. For others it's a pejorative. We need to be careful and respectful when using that word.
CDs are also sometimes called gay when they're not. Not sure that one form of ignorance is better than another -- it's just ignorance on the part of the speaker.
I am not a woman; I don't want to be a woman; I don't want to be mistaken for a woman.
I am not a man; I don't want to be a man; I don't want to be mistaken for a man.
I am a transgender person. And I'm still figuring out what that means.
Also we ought not conflate sissy in a sexual sense with our gender identity.
I was under the understanding that the term sissy historically was to describe an effeminate male in a derogatory vernacular. I remember being in school in the UK and that term being thrown around in the playground. I don't think it is used by today's kids like it was in the 60's and 70's. However in modern day the historical definition still stands but also refers to that of a sexual act in S&M play.Originally Posted by JuliePtown
Personally, I'm not a fan.
I consider myself as a sissy and proud of it. To me it has everything to do with my sexuality and nothing to do with my cross dressing
Bullies in grade school called me sissy I hated it and don't want to wear it even now, 60 years later.
I think that the term "sissy" must be taken in context.
If someone were to apply it to me I would find it distasteful, but not derogatory as I know it actually does not apply to me. It would be more that someone was uninformed than being hateful.
Some of our community like the term and embrace it. There are those that enjoy the satiny clothing many associate with the term, such as the little girl look. God bless them.
To others it's a reference to their supposed sexuality and as I said it's done so by those misinformed.
To each her own. For me it's just not an accurate description and that's all.
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
There is no exact male version of 'tomboy', which is acceptable behavior for girls. 'Sissy' is the one word descriptive noun, but comes loaded with 'unacceptable' in everyday usage. I think Sissy is on a par with 'nigger', and is used the same way, by abusers and by those who want to disarm its power by using it in our community.
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debated ad nauseam already. Do a search
I believe the term has evolved over the years.
In my younger days, a "sissy" described any unmanly male, and usually was applied to gays. Now it seems to be attached to the fetish world for those who indulge in French maid/little girl fantasies. I wish there were a better term for a feminine male that wasn't pejorative.
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Yeah, "sissy" has been a topic before, but, there are always new members here.
A word is a word is a word. Many times sissy used in the same sentence will confer different meanings based upon word inflection. A bully in the school yard calling a boy a sissy because he does not engage in sports well does not confer the same meaning as a wife patting her husband on the butt while he is wearing a French maid outfit and washing the dishes! Then there is the same male forced to be attired in a French maid outfit and subject to otherwise humiliating words and loving it.
I've never been called a sissy. If my wife were to call me a sissy if she saw me attired in women's clothing (DADT here) I would resent it because my mindset is not that of a sissy or at least what I think the term refers to.
I do a lot of buying on eBay. I have expressed before on this site my dislike of the term sissy when a seller is offering lingerie and undergarments. The seller usually knows from prior experience that the buyer is a male or at least the billing account is under a male name. The buyer is not really aware of the sexuality or sexual identity of the male buyer, and, it seems to confer a negative belief of either. I rather see a seller explicitly state the garment will be mailed discreetly or all some recognition all buyers are welcome. Sometimes when the seller does not give me a feedback I check to see whether or not the seller is lazy. Many times I see the seller has left feedback for everyone except a male buyer buying women's undergarments (bras, panties and slips). I derive from that the seller has a problem with males buying women's clothing.
For those who have been at this party for quite awhile, please forgive that I haven't been heard everything said before I arrived. As for conducting a search, I did, but some of the threads are 23 pages long. Just trying to get some simple feedback from those interested enough to provide constructive input. If the topic is old for you, perhaps find another thread to pull, or maybe it's time for a new party. I'm almost to that point after 3 months. Trying to reduce caustic sources in my life.
MY thoughts are, it depends on the context it's being used and if the person likes that term applied to them. Personally I refer to myself as girly which everyone knows has negative connotations, but I feel there is nothing wrong with being a girl so being girly isn't insulting to me, at the same time I never assume referring to anyone else as such is acceptable.
Grrrrrr.
You have touched an ancient and sensitive nerve about 'sissy'.
I'm approaching 65 yrs; and was a child in the 50s & 60s. Every adult man I knew and who knew me called me a sissy; in effect mocking me throughout childhood. These were working men, mill workers, miners, men who served in WWII & Korea. And to them I was sissy.
Now...... if you don't mind. There's a dress with my name on it for the day.
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I could no more deny Her than I would my own soul.
I think we are worrying to much about what others have to say or call you me I know what I am and how I see my self I have been called everything from a badass as for me I'm a crossdresser nothing more nothing less
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Ronda
Let's hope for your similar reply when the next "tell the wife or not" thread starts.
Just another label to me. How appropriate/inappropriate/derogatory/accurate the term might be, is just a matter of context.
Then again, I have pretty thick skin and don't put a lot of faith in labels, so perhaps I'm biased.
Karen
I'm surprised! Twenty posts in and no one yet has posted the old {standing akimbo} "Anybody calls me a sissy is gonna get a big old can of whupass opened up on them." {spits tobacco juice}
Yeah, it's sad, believe me missy when you're born to be a sissy -- Cowardly Lion
Agreed! We seem to be getting a lot of this recently. Harrumph!
Personally, I can't stand the word primarily because of my experience with it when I started questioning my gender identity and crossdressing. As a younger person, I don't immediately associate "sissy" with a playground insult, but rather with degrading, sexual fetishization of crossdressing and submissive, self-deprecating behavior. I associate it with other pornographic labels like tranny, etc.
That being said, when I first started crossdressing, that's what I thought I wanted out of the experience. However, I quickly realized that I don't get a sexual thrill out of dressing and that it has nothing to do with my sexuality. I don't have any interest in being "a sissy slave to a real man" as those exploitive porn sites akd Tumblr accounts might put it. So again, when I hear the word "sissy," it hits me with an intense sense of guilt because I know I went there for a bit and I hate myself for ever having done so.
For the record, I'm not trying to kink shame anyone. If that's what you're into and you're not in any real danger or abuse, that's totally cool, but it's definitely not for me.
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Yes, I find the term "sissy" derogatory and demeaning.
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I agree with Carole. But if your into that kind of thing...more power to you and be safe! Hugs Lana Mae
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Yes and I find the term "Cross Dresser" just as derogatory but can't go into details as to why because it's forbidden to be discussed on this forum.
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