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    pretty sure this was covered not too long ago here. And it didn't end well


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    I think most people would find it insulting except for the subset who love to identify as that.
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    Personal experiences will likely trump everything else. Personally, due to my years exploring the BDSM scene, I associate the word sissy with that. It's pretty common in the U.K. scene. There's boutiques just for sissies.

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    I believe there is Philli. They are called "Nancy Boys"

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    So Julie you don't have time to read a portion of the 23 pages?
    That is what the search function is for so please don't get all upset when someone mentions using it.
    Its one of those subjects that gets a cranky set of responses every time.

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    I am a child of the 50's and 60's. Yep My Dad called me a sissy and girly, it went on through school and I was in fights so much over it I never even want to hear that word again. I won most of those fights but it stung and For us we can never see how any body could call themselves that. I might be girly, but never a sissy.
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    After being called that and dreading it throughout my entire childhood and teenagehood, it is liberating now to embrace it.

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    I didn't hear the word too much growing up, and mostly it was meant for someone else, although it may have been thrown in my direction a time or two. But the meaning in our particular time and place wasn't as much "effeminate" as "cowardly" -- you could be called a "sissy" if you didn't want to participate in some dirty, dangerous, violent or potentially humiliating play. I don't think the boys in my neighborhood actually realized that it had sexual connotations.

    As to the more modern meaning in the "little girl" or BDSM sense, that doesn't describe my personal version of crossdressing at all, so I'd say it doesn't apply to me. I wouldn't buy an item on eBay that was marketed with that word, for sure, because I feel no affinity to that particular subculture.

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    The term does not bother me as I always thought it meant effeminate also. Meaning a boy who acted like a girl and therefore was called sissy or meaning a sister. I have no ill feelings for the term as I am a bit effeminate. I am not a girl just "girly"
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    Quote Originally Posted by JuliePtown View Post
    CDs are sometimes called sissies, though I realize there is a distinctive difference. Do you find the term sissy derogatory? I also realize the context and delivery of the term, affects the intent. Whenever Vanessasissy posts, and I presume she does not find it derogatory, I have wondered what other CDs think about it.
    Looks like you've figured out the answer already.
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    There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
    Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.

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    I think it has a great deal to do with how much bleeding it caused.
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    And, I did read much of the 23 pages...

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    I don't tolerate that word. it drove me to the edge of madness, and past the point of mere self loathing. I spent decades embracing hyper masculinity taking insane levels of since I really didn't care much one way or the other about waking up tomorrow, and drinking myself to sleep on a regular basis.

    But it's just a word

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    Doesn't bother me at all, and describes me quite well. I've even used it myself when explaining my crossdressing/bisexuality to some of my friends. I rarely dress to pass as a woman, more just to to emphasize my submissiveness and beta male sexual status. I was at the lake with some girl friends a few months back, and when I took off my shorts to reveal my pink/blue bikini bottoms one of them said, "Wow, those are some sissy little panties!!" I loved it! I'm not into the adult baby stuff or the overly frilly dresses and cosplay kind of CD stuff at all, but I can't think of a more succinct term to describe myself than sissy.

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    Doesn't bother me much. That said if someone out and out called me a sissy, I'd definitely have my hackles raised. On the other hand, it infers a less masculine version of maleness that I identify with.

    Several years back, I went to a neighborhood halloween party as a woman in a wedding gown. Got a lot of negative shit from that night from men and women. That Christmas I got a book from one neighbor "how to be a man." That bothered me immensely. On the other hand, quite a few women in the neighborhood were very accepting and that felt empowering.

    I'm so confused. Anyone else?

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    For reasons I would prefer not to go into, I hate that term. I cringe every time I hear someone say it. Even if it's not directed at me.

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    Yes, I also feel the term is derogatory in most cases, and conveys an image that I would like to avoid in other context. I do not want to be thought of as a Sissy in any term. But that's me. If you like it, well have fun with it.

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    less than ruffled feathers
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    sissy -a person regarded as effeminate or cowardly. Not ever a complimentary term me thinks.

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    Growing up in the fifties, I can remember people using the word to describe those who weren't into sports and such. Although I never remember using it to describe others or being called sissy myself, I can say today that anyone wanting to buy me a super frilly girly "sissy dress" or two, can call me SISSY all day long.
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    It's inevitable that topics repeat themselves on web forums. Members come and go. And threads get closed so even if you read them, you can't respond.

    Julie, To answer your question, I find the term "sissy" derogatory. I am not a sissy but I am a pretty involved crossdresser. I would not like to be called a "sissy".

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    The problem here is the terminology used for gurls who want to be dominated by men. Using the word "sissy" can be derogatory, but not having a word to identify yourself as a crossdresser who seeks dominant men can be frustrating. I don't consider myself transgender, but I am quite fem and want to be able to attract guys who are attracted to effeminate crossdresers such as myself. As of now, the term for that is "sissy", and if that is what guys use to identify the fem boys they're attracted to, there's little one can do until porn sites and personals pages start calling it something else.

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    Flygirl, is an effeminate man who wants to attract men a "Twink"? Never understood that word or if it is the same as what you mention.

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    As I was feminized by and have become very submissive to my Wife, I am considered by Her and me to be her sissy. I have become accustomed to be called that by Her. In my opinion, when I just crossdressed, I was a CD'er, but once I went over the line and became submissive to my superior, I became a sissy. I do not find the terms "Crossdresser" or "sissy" to be derogatory - they just better explain who I was and who I have become!

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    Julie,

    While I'm sure there are some who would disagree (oh labels, so fun!), a twink is generally regarded as a very young (lets say 18-30) gay man who is very skinny and often short, has virtually zero muscle definition, and completely hairless/smooth.

    I think where it gets a bit complicated is that most of these attributes (petite and hairless/smooth) are also desirable attributes for crossdressers. The difference as I see it is that while a twink might have a feminine body in those regards, they don't wear women's clothes or present as women. Are there twinks that are also crossdressers? Yes, I'm sure there are, but it's generally reserved for cisgender gay men.
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