In reference to your comments in #32, you also need to consider what your wife is going through. Wearing women's clothing is one issue. Telling a wife you are attracted to men is another? How do you really expect your wife to react to those. Years ago a friend of my wife told her about her husband's infidelity with a man. She said, "If it was a woman I could fight for my man" meaning using her femininity to woo him back. "But, how do I compete with a man?"
I will readily agree a pastor may not be the best person to consult, but, that's your wife's spiritual well being. Can you expect her to throw it all away to appease you? Your prior posts of last year seem to suggest your wife was trying to accept your desires. You seem to have overloaded her senses. Transitioning? Homosexuality? I would think your marriage degrading to a brother-sister relationship is not really going to improve to a level it was before. There is always going to be your suppressed desires. If you had a sexual relationship with a male already, are you sure you were subconsciously suppressing those desires and using a woman as your "beard?" There is always going to be a nagging feeling of what you said to her in the back of her mind.
I've seen this before. The husband wants and gets it all, while the wife is unfulfilled. Your really need to sort this out. Divorce may be the wise option for the benefit of your wife and children.
