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    Hi Ariana, I’ve been on HRT for 3 years now and I have noticed a great reduction in sweating. My wife picked up on this too. She noticed that after a day of hard work together, she was soaked and my shirt was barely wet. I’ve also notice that I don’t really stink either. Nice problem, no? I also don’t wear deodorant most days, no reason to.
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    Quote Originally Posted by IleneD View Post
    Have you - actually used your vagina?

    My husband is a man (sorta), we had sex about an hour ago. I had my first orgasm, post surgery, that wasn't self inflicted! wow!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mirya View Post
    for everyone: Why do you think you waited so long to transition?
    Unadulterated gutless fear of others opinion of me. So terribly sad and at this juncture, pathetically embarrassing.

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    Was it what I expected? No. It was much better.

    I expected to lose a few friends, and I have lost three, long distance friends, that I know of. And one brother. I got over it, and on with my wonderful life. My life attitude is so much better, and I never think of suicide any more.

    I expected to lose my clients (my work takes me into client's homes), and my major business (running a school). Neither happened.

    I was told by my endo to expect breast development about one cup size less than my mother and maternal grandmother - and thats exactly what I have. I did not ask about the rest of my body, and if I had she would have said it will likely mirror theirs, too - and since the women in my family have small butts, no hips, but do have mid-riff fat - i have developed that, too. I've put on over 20# since I started HRT three years ago.

    The biggest issue post-surgery for me was I couldn't restart my exercise routine for nearly six months. And it has been hard to lose the 10# I gained during those months. But I am committed to reclaiming my figure, and will keep working on that.

    What would I do differently? I would have started counseling, with a therapist who specializes in working with gender issues, sooner. Could I have transitioned 20 years sooner? No, society was not as accepting then as it is now. And science did not know about genetics we now know.
    But if I had read Jennifer Boylan's first book, "She's Not There", in the early 2000's when she wrote it, I would have transitioned many years sooner.

    Before I transitioned I felt like a lurker when I dressed. After I transitioned its like my whole life is 'just normal'. I get up, use the restroom, shower, dress, go about my day, and rarely ever think about my body, my genitals, my clothes, other than picking out what I will wear that day, and why.
    "If you are living the life you want to live you've successfully transitioned to being the person you want to be." - Eryn
    Thank you Persephone and Eryn, for helping me find and become my true self. Shalom Persephone, April 15, 2018.

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    I noticed these questions were asked near 4 years ago and I would love to hear some insight now on these same two questions.
    Thank you in advance.

    A) Is post transition life what you expected it to be?

    B) If there were any advice you could give yourself pre-transition what would it be?
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    For me,

    Post transition has been exactly what I expected it to be, no change to the way I live my life. Throughout my transition and afterwards, I have had non of the issues some TS ladies do/have. We don't live in a big metropolis and I find that most people only notice you if you draw attention to yourself.

    The only thing I would advise myself would be to start hair removal earlier, once you are sure that you are going to be transition, even if its later rather than sooner. When you do start electrolysis, get some of the more painful areas treated at each session, it bloody hurts to have session after session on the painful areas.
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    A. Some say that I started transitioning 40 years ago when I completed electrolysis. At that time I certainly dreamed of living my life more authentically but I was convinced that I would never transition. The world I knew was completely unaccepting and intolerant. Even when I started HRT 20 years ago I was convinced that I could hold out forever. There was too much to lose. As it turned out, I couldn't hold out forever. When I transitioned I anticipated living a private life, in the shadows, minding my own business and left alone. Pretransition I really thought that some relationships would endure.

    I was wrong about living a private life. I got involved and volunteered with organizations of all kinds including the Houston Rodeo and Habitat for Humanity. I have even met with lawmakers at the State Capital. Unfortunately I was also wrong about the relationships. I have only one old friend and no family after transition. However, I have many new friends, some of which have become my new family. That I did not expect.


    The surgeries and recovery have been a pain in the butt, pun intended. I have spent a lot of time healing. I had never even thought about that beforehand.

    B. I'm not sure that you can change one thing about the past without changing, and missing out on, a lot of things but, of course, I wish I could have transitioned much earlier. I wish I could have known earlier that I was even going to transition. It might have been helpful if I could have encouraged myself to maybe do more to minimize hurt, mine and others. I would also have assured myself that, despite obstacles and difficulties, there is a peace that can be achieved no other way.
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    I would say that my post transition life is so much more than I expected. I am still amazed that I was able to do it after a lifetime of being in the closet. I would often say in the past that I just wanted to be able to take the trash out as Dorit! Now I move through my day as the women I am and accepted as such in the society that I am now a part of. What did surprise me was that I had many religious friends, mostly women, some for as long as 30 years, that totally rejected me when I came out. It was painful at first, but I accepted it as part of the cost of transitioning, and moved on to new friends and even a new, accepting, religious expression.

    I was a bit apprehensive about my surgeries, wondering if I would regret such an irreversible act. Once again, I was surprised to see I how delighted I am in my body and grateful that I had the courage to do it. For me this was the ultimate confirmation that I am a transsexual women!

    As to what I would do differently, I generally do not like to go on the path of "what if" and instead try to come to a place of acceptance of "what is." I would say as a minor issue that I would have liked to concentrated more on facial hair removal earlier on in my transition.

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    A. Is post transition life what I expected? I suppose that I am post transition, but maybe some would say no because I have yet to have GCS, not that it is a requirement of being TS, but it is in my future. However I did change my hormones 3+ years ago, and legally and socially transitioned 2+ years ago now, oh and had an orchi done last year. Thus being as I have now been full time for more than 2 years, I'm going to answer the question from that perspective........................ No post transition life is not what I expected. It is SO much better than I could have ever imagined. Because everything in my life changed for the better? Not really, my life is pretty much the same as it was before, only now I'm actually able to be me, and the freedom within that is huge. I expected to be fully shunned and to lose everything, friends, family, employment, etc. But really I have lost next to nothing. What I have gained though feels priceless.

    B. I agree with some others, I would tell my pre-transition self to get herself to an electrologist immediately! That was most likely the toughest part of the first year after I socially transitioned as I had not even started it. Having to grow out my facial hair for about a week while trying to present as the best me possible was very challenging, and often left me in tears.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nadine Spirit View Post
    A. Is post transition life what I expected? I suppose that I am post transition, but maybe some would say no because I have yet to have GCS, not that it is a requirement of being TS, but it is in my future.
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    I completely agree with this, being TS is in our brains and not our genitals. I would add though that for me personally, and also for some other TS women, experiencing GCS is like going through a second transition!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dorit View Post
    . . . being TS is in our brains and not our genitals. I would add though that for me personally, and also for some other TS women, experiencing GCS is like going through a second transition!
    I agree. My friend D.J. completely transitioned several years ago and has never taken hormones nor will she ever have surgery. Health issues prevent any of that. Regardless, she was recently referred to as one of the most successful women attorneys in Texas.

    Concerning GRS, I agree with Dorit. It is an experience that is hard to describe. The noise in your head stops. The battle/ quest/ struggle/ journey is complete leaving you feeling just that - complete.

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