What was your first time out fully dressed like ? Was it scary or not?
What was your first time out fully dressed like ? Was it scary or not?
It was on a holloween so not too scary
The first couple of times I went out totally en femme; heels, makeup, blond wig, dress, hosiery and all the undergarments it was over three decades ago. I believe the early 1980's. I was really apprehensive. That was before there was any enlightenment as to cross dressing, gays, lesbians, etc. I really did not know what would happen if I was ID as a man. I did go out twice on Halloween fully made up. Since it was Halloween I felt more comfortable.
My first time out I was terribly nervous, but I should have been even more nervous. I had no idea how to do anything to get to the look I was after. I had a nice Revlon wig and no clue how to style it. I had no idea how to apply the nice quality makeup I had bought. This was before internet, before digital cameras, and to check myself out, all I had was a mirror. I was trying for a business woman look in my navy pencil skirted skirtsuit, black pumps with 5 1/2 inch heels. My hair stuck out everywhere. My makeup was over emphasizing everything I put it on. I looked WORSE than any clown.
Yeah, it was scary, because of my own ignorance and stupidity, AND I had spent almost NO TIME LEARNING a few basics before heading out that way. Learn and practice a few things. You'll look much better, your confidence will be good, your body motions will be more grateful, and I'd bet you'll blend very well.
Hugs,
Linda
Diane,
I didn't feel nervous, it just felt so right. The first time out the door was in a long ballgown and 4" heels to meet up with a social group to celebrate their 4th anniversary. We had a meal and then I couldn't believe I was on the dance floor having a great time .
My avatar picture was from the Xmas party, it's the first time I'd had a meal and danced with other members of the general public, it was a wonderful night.
I'm getting use to driving dressed to the venue , I just smile when a get a double take from other drivers and their passengers .
Fully dressed, yes a little! Not a city person/large crowds person! Went wig shopping! Parked in parking garage. Thankfully I was with someone who knew where to go. Left parking garage, down some stairs to a hallway, past a police precinct, rush across the street turn left and rush across the street and in the wig shop! Outside noticed two stares, one was like "Oh, my God!" and one was a sort of double take with mouth open! Inside one customer kept looking at me at different times but poker face. Treated well by staff, even if the male employee called me sir! Shop was crowded and said "Excuse me!" in my best Lana Mae voice and got an "Excuse me!" back from a female customer! Then the rush back to the car! on the way back had one man say hello but just hello! The "Oh, my God!" look was bad but overall not a bad experience! Hugs Lana Mae
Life is worth living!
"Foxy lady! You look so good!!" Jimi Hendrix
I was very nervous. Not so much scary. After about a half hour or so I calmed down. I gain a lot more confidence after my first interaction with muggles.
Sara
Yes. Four years ago in Florida to drive to a fast food restaurant at night. First time out, first time driving in heels, and first time ordering over those awful speakers at the drive through in my other voice.
First time out? I'd say it's scary. You're hyper-vigilant, convinced everyone is staring and everyone who looks can see straight into your heart. But you get over that.I have a hard time deciding what my "first time out" was -- first time out the door at all? First time going to a place with other people present? First time going to a place where you're going to have to interact with people? I suppose some folks have all those wrapped into one but I had those as three separate experiences. Each scary. Each exhilarating. Each plastered a smile onto my face that took days to wear off. Go for it.
I am not a woman; I don't want to be a woman; I don't want to be mistaken for a woman.
I am not a man; I don't want to be a man; I don't want to be mistaken for a man.
I am a transgender person. And I'm still figuring out what that means.
Hi Diane, My first time out was to a park, I made sure it wasn't a busy park. I was totally en femme, over dressed for the occasion, but it didn't matter by that point. I was in the pink fog and just had to go out. I was so scared, my hands were shaking, I kept telling myself "don't lock yourself out of the car". When I first put my foot out of the car my leg was shaking so bad it made my heal start tapping on the pavement of the parking lot. I was terrified and loving it! I stayed away from other people and kept to myself on a short walk around the park. Thanks for asking! Take care Brenda.
Not really scared, a little nervous but I think I calmed down pretty quickly. Only time I was really nervous was the first time I went to an IHOP on a Saturday morning. Once we sat down though and no mobs with pitchforks came after me, I think I settled down.
I'm fairly new to going out dressed, had many drives but leaving the safety zone of my car for the first time had me full of nerves. However, after a fairly short time I realized no one was looking at me, no double takes, no comments and it felt great. Been out several times since and would do more if time allowed.
Here today, gone tomorrow....
My first and only time out was a year ago last October. Fully en femme with my wife. We tried a bar we thought wouldn't be busy but it was jammed and my heels which I thought were ok were loose and kept coming off. We got to the door and when I saw the crowd chickened out. We tried and OUTBACK restaurant with a lot less people. We're seated quickly, my wife ordered us drinks, waitress referred to us many times as "you ladies" . I was nervous and scared . We've talked about going out again or a girls weekend, but I'm in no hurry. I guess I goes with your confidence level and if you really care. I work with all guys and would never live it down. It will happen again, but who knows when.
If you only knew the power of the pink fog! ~Joss
age 15.....with my super liberal bohemian Aunt and trip on train into NYC........start of the journey
Jocyelyn,
You make a good point about shoes ! How many times do you wear shoes around the house and they're fine as soon as you go out do they give you problems ? I know I don't feel nervous but I wonder if feet do shrink with nerves, I guess they do reduce in size when it's cold, hot feet tend to hurt more in shoes. All I know is most of my shoes now have heel grips in.
First time for me was in high school. My parents were out of town and my sisters were out. I bought some heels that fit, put on makeup and borrowed some of my sisters' and mom's clothing. It was autumn and a bit cold out so I put a shawl over my head (no wig and thought I was being fashionable). I went to a convenience store and looked at Cosmo. I managed to pull it off.
When I returned home I parked the car and was walking toward the side door when a car pulled into the driveway. I hid in the shadows while my heart was beating like I had just run a marathon. I thought my sisters or parents had come home early. Thank God it was just someone turning around. I still can't believe I did it. Scary, but what a feeling!
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"It is so easy to exist, instead of live. Unless you know there is a clock ticking."
--Anna Quindlen, writer, journalist, columnist
It was 2012 in Saugatuck, MI at TG weekend. Not too much to be frightened of since there would be other CDs there. But no one told me what time to arrive and when I got there (1pm), I was the only crossdresser in the bar. Eventually a TS came in and sat next to me to chat. I was relieved to have her with me.
It was a bit scary just getting out of the car!
"You're the only one to see the changes you take yourself through", Stevie Wonder
At first yes, I was so nervous for complete strangers to see me in my car. Once I got out of my car and saw how natural I felt being out a whole new world opened up.
Like Bridget, my first time out fully dressed--thirty plus years ago--was to a work friend's Halloween party. It did not seem scary at the time but given that half those who attended were work colleagues it probably should have been.
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I wear warm ups over my outfit and take them off once I am near my destination and put on my wig and heels. I also bring a bag with male clothes and make up removal towelets and a damp wash towel, just in case I have to change back to male mode.
My first outing was to a park area. I sat on a bench and enjoyed the day. Nobody noticed me. My first outing interacting with the public was a drive thru liquor store. I ordered some beer and paid and left. The girl working the window knew but was nice. Another place I like to go is a local adult novelty store. They are very nice and let me shop unbothered. At an adult novelty store everyone shopping is a little nervous and I fit right in. Enjoy, but be careful.
My first time out was in Sydney in 2005, it was less than 2 months after I first saw Becky properly. I was around 40 years old, I went out at night with another TGal and a GG. We drove to an area packed full of restaurants, bars clubs etc.. the highlight was when we got out of the car and walked about 3 blocks to a bar, being seen by so many people was such a thrill.
Scared? Not at all
Feelings - surreal, excited, thrilled, ecstatic, elated, I could go on
A.K.A Rebecca & Bec
My first time out, fully dressed up in daylight, was fairly nerve-racking - but totally worth it too!
I had gone to a specialist store for crossdressers in the suburbs of Birmingham (England not Alabama). I was there for a makeover but I also spent a fair amount of money buying a complete transformation outfit - everything from the skin out including makeup and wig. So, when my makeover appointment was nearing its end, instead of getting cleaned up and changed back into boy mode, I got the SA to pack all of my boy clothes into a the carrier bag that she had been preparing to pack my purchases in, paid for all the goodies and left as Judith to go back to my hotel in central Birmingham.
The first challenge was to catch the bus to the local train station. I had to wait for what seemed like an eternity but was probably only a few minutes. Then when I got to the station, I had a 15 minute wait. The single platform was deserted until about 5 minutes before the train was due I heard footsteps. I saw an older man (mid sixties) coming down the stairs into my platform. He was probably mid sixties, about 5'9" (so at 6' + 3-4" heels I was significantly taller) in pretty good shape and probably ex- military (I didn't get a good look at his tie but I'm pretty sure it was a regimental tie, possibly Royal Marines). I was pretty sure that he wouldn't approve of me so I tried to blend into the background.
Along came the train and, wouldn't you know, it was one of the old style commuter jobs with multiple compartments and one door per compartment (opened by reaching in through the window!) I looked around me and walked up to the train and was just about to reach out to open a door when I heard, "Excuse me miss", and there he was, standing with open door in hand. I walked over, smiled my sweetest smile, mouthed "thankyou" and got in, wondering what might happen next. He got in , closed the door, said "you're welcome" and then exited into the corridor and thus to another compartment. I sat in solitary splendour the whole way into Birmingham and then got a cab from the station to my hotel. I'm not sure which was the stronger emotion when I finally got to my room, exhilaration or relief! But the bug had bitten and next morning I made sure to get up early enough to go to breakfast as Judith. Scary but SO worth it!
The very first time I went out fully dressed was on halloween with My SO, and even though it was very scary and i was very nervous, towards the end of it i started easing up a bit. When we left our apartment, she pulled the car around and all I had to do was lock the door, go down the stairs, out the front door and into the car. Simple right? then the neighbor came in the back door and i was hitting the bottom of the stairs and he bolted across the building to the front door as I was getting into the car.
My SO said "he probably wanted to see those legs better" but we'll never know. Nothing was ever said, no questions ever asked but thy did move out less than a month later, which I will never know if it was because of me or not. Might just be a coincidence. Once on the road, with no real destination in mind, we decided to head south and just drive. After all I just wanted as much time out as Joanne as possible.
as we came to a very busy intersection, she ran something over that made a GOD awful noise underneath the car so she pulled right over and I got out to look without even once thinking about how I was dressed. Last thing I needed was to have to call someone to come help us out if we were stranded there cause I wasn't smart enough to pack a "change" bag. Luckily nothing was wrong and we got back on our way, after that and a few laughs I became more at ease with it all.
Every time I have gone out afterwards, I have always wanted to stop some where and do some walking, this halloween was the mall but I chickened out, so it's still scary and I still get extremely nervous from time to time. I don't know if that ever goes away to be honest. I know if does if your TG but as a CD? who knows. I do know I wish i still had those cute , sexy heels I wore on that night lol
Flip Flops were made for Beaches & Bath Houses, We have neither in 2017. Lose the flip flops!
Good advice/thoughts Renihoward -- I may need to adopt some of those!
Other than parking lot walks, and drive thru food service, search my "Baby steps to a Giant Leap! "
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