Rate yourself on Becky's Gender Feeling Scale

[sometimes brooke]

Hi Becky,

I loved thinking about your question. For me, I have been subject to very hurtful criticism and judgment when I expressed my feminine side, so I have lived almost all of this aspect of my life internally and without being able to talk about it with anyone.

I have had many years to reflect on it and learn and accept what feels natural and right, and what feels forced or conforming.

I know that my thinking and behavior naturally tends towards very feminine. I don't really "fit in" well with men, but I can manage well enough to get by at work and socially, but it isn't where my true nature resides.

I'm not very good with numbers; I tend to go with emotion and intuition. I know that am at my best when I'm feminine. So I will go with 85-15.

Brooke

[JeanTG]

At the moment I'd say 60% female, 40% male (feeling-wise). Those numbers can flip around but it seems that in the past 5 years or so the numbers have slowly crept from about 40 female to 60 female.

What feels weird to me is that the male side comes fairly easy to me from a lifetime of conditioning that this "is how it should be". While I feel predominantly female, it's a learning curve to express it physically. Testosterone is a powerful toxin...

Like Brooke though, I don't necessarily fit in well with men. I do have a few male friends that are mostly thoughtful and intellectual, and though very masculine don't go out of their way to be macho. But in social circles like a party, I almost always naturally gravitate towards the women where I'm accepted not as a threat, but as part of the sisterhood.

[cdtraveler]

Who knows. I'm me and I hate gender steriotypes. That said I do find this an interesting thread.

Amanda

[Tina_gm]

I used to try to put the gender thing into anew equation,percentage slide ruler, sliding scale, I've tried every form of math, but none of it ever worked for me. I really cannot begin to say where I am. There's so much of me that crosses the gender divide I have more or less closed the gap to a point where there isn't a tangible gap anymore. I'm in with both masculine and feminine. My wife recently told me my brain cannot be described as either male or female, just an odd mix of the two.

[sometimes_miss]

Well, it's this simple. I apparently will forever feel like I'm supposed to be a girl. But I recognize that there's no reason to believe that I am one. I don't think like one, I don't feel like one, and I don't act like one, and of course, I don't look like one. It's that simple.

[St Lisa]

30% male 10% female and 60% "don't label me"

[DarthDaddicus]

I'm feeling about like you, Becky. 20% male, 80% female. I am a girly girl, but I am very much attracted to tom-boy girls.

[Alice B]

It of course varies, bt about 65% to 35% mae to female on the overall scale

[Meghan4now]

35 % female, 75% male. I always give 110%

[Debra Russell]

[QUOTE=Connie D50;4066832]What a great post I have to be higher in Female due to the fact that I think about it everyday many many time a day. Yet when you see me I'm 100% male :

Same for me...............................Debra

[Jenny22]

Hard to say. I dress pretty every morning (lipstick is a must) and am always underdressed with small forms when I go out in drab. When not specifically on focused male thinking, my mind is full of feminine thoughts .. like now. So to figger a %, usually about 85% female and 15% male.

[Dana44]

I am about 50 percent male 50 percent female. Sometimes more female than male.

[DIANEF]

I couldn't put a figure on it, it varies so much; by the day, week, even by the hour sometimes.

[Rachael Leigh]

I think I'm 60/40 female to male, somewhat gender fluid but most defiantly under the transgender umbrella

[Samantha Clark]

It fluctuates. Sometimes I feel 89% boy and 11% girl. Other times I feel the need to be the opposite. And everything in between. I don't worry about the lack of stability. I try to enjoy the ride when I can!

Many problems arise when we think everything is static and deterministic when in fact everything is dynamic and stochastic.

[rockerreds]

I'm about 70/30 female/male.

[Cheryl T]

I would have to classify myself as 65% female 35% male the vast majority of the time.

[Scarlett398]

Alright Bec, this isn't fitting in with what any of the other girls have said but this is honestly how I feel. When I am Scarlett, I feel 100% female. When I am with my sexy wife by my side I feel 70% male 30% female. I always have this desire to shop and help my wife pick out her outfits including boots, booties, heels and wedges when I am with her on date night after dinner or after a movie. We both intensely enjoy shopping together. Now when I am helping her pick things out, I am also shopping for Scarlett without my wife knowing about it. I really love spending more time shopping for pretty girl's clothing rather than in the men's department. Girls are so darn lucky and I understand how they can always spend so much more money than guys on shopping. Girls have so many types and styles of clothing and footwear to choose from, however, when you get to the men's department all we have to choose from are shirts, pants, and shorts --- BBOOOOORRRRRIIIIIINNNNNNGGGGGGGG! And I'm sure any cross dresser feels the same way about the two different departments. True? I would love to hear from all of the girls about how they feel about the difference between getting to shop for girl's clothing versus guy clothing.

That's all I have on this one Bec. Interesting tread subject! XOXOXO Scarlett

[Kandi Robbins]

I am fundamentally male. When around family, my thoughts are 100% male, husband, father, son, brother, etc... My primary interests are always male (running, competition, sports), but I have giant gaps of time on my hands and the old pink fog just won't clear.

I would give this all up in a millisecond if that were even remotely possible. It's not so I stopped fighting and embraced it, allowing myself to enjoy a female part of my brain that was probably there at birth and certainly fostered by living with women (almost exclusively) my entire life.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Becky, Not sure about the percentage but I am a guy that seams to have the best of both worlds......

[Allison Chaynes]

I think 50/50. I don't feel like I can be majority one or the other.

[Rhonda Darling]

I'll have to say 50% / 50%. On any given day I can feel anchored in one or the other. Almost full time I'm wearing attached breasts -- hiding them as needed when at work in male mode. I feel out of sorts when I don't feel/have the weight of breasts on my chest. If I have to be all male for awhile, I really start to get anxious and feel myself incomplete.

Sherry, I'm somewhat envious of your situation (and the fab bod you achieve).

Rhonda

[julia marie]

Average out the day to day variables, and I'd say 55% male, 45% female.

[Confucius]

I am 100% heterosexual, 100% male, and 100% crossdresser.
When I crossdress that doesn't make me female. It doesn't change my personality. It just makes my happy.

[S. Lisa Smith]

This is very interesting. A few of us had this discussion Saturday night. I am, in the new terminology, gender fluid. I am compartmentalized at 50/50 male female...That means when I am dressed, I'm on the female side and when I'm doing my male thing I'm on the male side of things.