Crossdressers only: Is it Relaxing or Distracting?

[docrobbysherry]

I must have read a 1000 posts here where someone describes dressing as "relaxing". I can understand that. When I first began dressing, I threw on a few pieces when I got home from work and wore them all evening. Sometimes even slept in them. That was long ago so I don't remember, but it SOUNDS relaxing?

Now, I only dress all the way or not at all and, it's NOT relaxing! I have to totally concentrate on what I'm going to wear, what order I put everything on, and not forget anything. Especially if I'm going out.

What it IS for me, every single time, is distracting! The 100's of random thots I normally have flashing thru my mind disappear. All I can think about is what I'm doing and how I'm going to do it.

So CD's, what is it for u? Relaxing, distracting, or something else all together?

[Rachelakld]

Both
I got dressed up in a relaxed manor yesterday - but no make up - clothes & wig
Later in the day I went to get some groceries, without make up and without a wig - got a few looks as my bra shows through my light summer pink tee shirt
Even when I do dress fully, it's still an escape from real life which has more stress and demands, so it is relaxing and distracting.

[Geena Gee]

Earlier today, I went shopping for a jean skirt. Found one at Uptown Cheapskate. Also stopped at ROSS and picked up a pair of skinny jeans - sz 9. I was on my Harley, so...
Anyway, got home, tried on the skirt, a little snug in the waist, but it will be fine.. it was only $8. The jeans were too big - which I can't believe!
Took care of all my little chores, and watched some TV. At 8 o'clock they had this same boring program on every channel, so I decided to have a little Geena time. I ran a nice hot bath with some bath salts, grabbed a bottle of some mango shower gel, slipped out of my skirt and thong and into that waiting tub. Soaked for about 10 minutes then did an all over shave. Dried off, grabbed the moisturizer, and did myself head to toe. Once I was done I put on my thong, skirt, bra w/forms, a blouse, my new wig, heels, and lipstick.
I'm in no way ready to go out anywhere, but I was planning on staying in.
I'd say that I am relaxed and content. But that's because I put no pressure on myself tonight.
I can see where you're coming from Doc, it's just not the way it affects me.

[mikayla1964]

relaxing and for stress relief . I'm much more comfortable dressed.

[Beverley Sims]

Mmmm!
Sherry,I think you are a female illusionist...... Not a cross dresser.
Me? I dress most of the time and I always want to improve my look.
Like you I went through the early phases of dressing and it was all experimental then.
I feel more relaxed when I am dressed and when not there is a certain frustration in how I am presenting.
It is probably not relaxing as it is feeling more comfortable dressed.
I feel no stress or fear when going out these days and I feel you are in a similar position as you finely hone your appearance to look even better than previously.
I don't think it's distracting for you, more like taking things a step further in your illusion.
I think you have been very successful in what you do and in order to advance you do have to come up with new ideas.
My stage of illusion has leveled out a lot and I my honing of my presentation is only little tweaks here and there these days.
You appear to lead an interesting life and my advice is, don't change it.

[Maria Blackwood]

Zzzzzzzzzhuh? Wha? Sorry. Was sitting here all crossdressed and SO relaxed.

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[Tracii G]

Neither to me.

[Laura28]

Very relaxing i enjoy the whole process of getting dressed the make up the cloths the wig and then being dressed my mind is cleared my troubles or stress from life or work is gone.

[sara66]

Dressing is calming & relaxing. I always find I dress in a rush, then calm way down when I am ready.
Sara

[jennifer0918]

An escape from my everyday relaxing, and I dress all the way,legs shaved,arms shabed,no facial hair.

[Johninabra]

I would have to say relaxing, I often am at home at not get wearing a bra and/or forms. Having a drink, watching tv, or just hanging out with my wife.

[Stacey G]

I am most confident, comfortable, and relaxed when dressed to the nines. I love lounging in my stockings and heels. My wife says she finds it too uncomfortable.

[docrobbysherry]

I relate completely, Diane!

I'm never completely relaxed when I dress and go out.

Not until I pull back in my driveway!

[Stacy Darling]

It accentuates my relaxing so much, but after saying that, it's in me in every mood and if I'm feeling sad It's there too!

On the distraction, worrying about breaking a nail can be very distracting. (don't laugh, I'm being serious)

[Elizabeth G]

Hmm... relaxing while I'm dressed but distracting when I'm not dressed but thinking about it while I should be concentrating on other things.

[kimdl93]

It's always been a distraction. But on the other hand, I can say that my absolute most peaceful, content times were spent on the patio, reading and relaxing en femme.

Confucius (our very own) often talks about the various chemicals that bathe our brains when we do pleasurable things, or even activities that evoke pleasant memories. That is really what the feelings are , however we describe them, just happy brain chemistry. I suppose that is why behaviors of any kind can become addictive,potential destructively so.

[Ressie]

I never understood how crossdressing makes one relaxed. It always made me nervous because of the fear of getting caught. That's my own hang up that has to do with family dynamics.

It's taken me a long time to stop worrying about getting caught (by family members). Maybe I should just go out dressed and stop to visit everyone I know!

Distraction? Yes, dressing does take time away from other projects. There is so much involved in the whole 9 yards. CDing seems to take over sometimes.

[Christine Eriksson]

I really wish it was relaxing. As a perfectionist I'm never satisfied with my female look. Not even home alone. I guess it has to do with me have hard to accept my female personality. If I could wish for something it would be accepting my self as I am

[ginapoodle]

Had to ponder this excellent question. It can be a mix and variable for me. IF I get space where my wife is out of town, and I am certain I have time to dress, it is very relaxing. Those windows are rare, even in my retirement. Normally when my wife is working I get two days/week where she is out for about seven hours, and that is consistent.

Summer is coming and as my wife teaches: poof goes all my alone time and privacy. On top in a couple weeks my oldest daughter is visiting, so no windows there. The reality: any windows for dressing starting in about ten days go poof until early September, and that sucks. Of course, I can take solo vacations home to CO, and I likely will do that sometime this summer. I have also been pondering a trip to Portland, OR to have a few days in total enfemme at a venue there.

[Jenn A116]

I'm somewhere in between the two. Mostly its relaxing. When dressed I can enjoy just being so for hours.

But occasionally, its distracting as I focus on some of the special feelings I get from the clothes. I might glance down and notice the boobs, or just need to slide a bra strap up my shoulder.

So, both, but mostly relaxing.

[AileenCD]

I really have two modes. I have my own professional office, and the girls that work with me are on flex-time, so I'm able to dress sometimes at work, and also can underdress. Aileen is really MUCH more efficient and contentious about work than her drab self, and I get a lot done on those days. No time for indulgence, just for relaxed and productive work....and a little more alert for footsteps at the door.

Then there is dressing at home, and really indulging my femininity--and that's total, blissful distraction. But now Aileen is telling me to get back to work--my gurly break time is over, so I'll adjust my bra and get back to my papers.

[NancySue]

For me it's about 80% relaxing and 20% distraction. The distraction part is still pleasurable. The distraction is when I look through catalogs, see items I like, etc. I have a totally accepting and supportive wife...with a great sense of humor. She chuckles when I refer to my dressing as "relaxing ". She once said, "you can't wait to put on, what I can't wait to take off...referring to nylon stockings (# 1) and underwire bras, let alone shapers, slips, etc. My standard reply is "yep" 😉 My ultimate pleasure, is a leg rub, after I shave, apply scented lotion and slip on a pair of sheer hose. Ahhhhh. 😌

[Spiritfox]

(Deleted and reposted due to bad words from autocorrect, that will teach me to post while sleepy)

I find dressing up very relaxing. I only dress when no one is around, so I won't get caught. I put on some stockings, a skirt and a cute shirt and sit at my desk playing video games. Sometimes I giggle when I beat other players, since it might make them mad if someone like me beat them.

[Joyce Swindell]

I find that recently it's more relaxing. It used to be more stressful worrying about others and what they might think. I've never thought or worried too much about dangers of being beaten up but more about being noticed as a man in a dress. Now that I'm older and have an awesome wife I have very little worry about what others think. Someone said "It's none of my business what anyone else is thinking".....I agree with that....and with that....why should I care?

My wife and I have had such relaxing times shopping and getting our nails done and pedicures. It's so nice to not have to rush to get ready. It's awesome to be a girl and I'v been growing my hair long and can't wait to get a beauty shop style and trim as Joyce!

[LeannS]

Reese I am with you it does take away from things that are on my list to get done but I do find it relaxing in a way.
Watching to little grandson so I should look the part right??