Before I came out to my wife I started shaving (actually nairing) my extremely hairy back. My wife helped me with it. Of course I didn't stop there. I shaved my cheat and pits. She started asking me why and I told her I wanted to see what I looked like without all the fur. Then I shaved my arms and legs. For the first time in my adult life I was fur free. I didn't shave all the time, just when I was going to have a chance to dress for an extended time. Then the dam broke. She saw that I'd been on this site and I admitted I was a cross dresser and she put two and two together that when I was fur free I was cross dressing. Fast forward to today and I don' t shave anymore and wear a goatee. She said she likes my hairy body and my goatee. I can't cross dress with all this fur and have any chance of looking female but by wife is less unhappy. I have told her I' m still a cross dresser but I' m not dressing. Kind of a dadt and our relationship limps along.