Hi, I joined this forum a couple years ago but don't post very often. I'm so miserable at the moment, to put it mildly, and could really do with some advice.
For me, dressing up is more than a hobby.
I've come to terms with being born in the wrong body and most likely being a lesbian, so crossdressing is a weak compromise.
A few years ago, I built up confidence to drive while fully dressed with forms and wig but no makeup
I then built the confidence to walk in my nearby city fully dressed, this time with makeup
Since then, several friends and family have died, I've been diagnosed with a lifelong condition, we relocated to another part of the UK for my wife's work, and several other major things have happened
This has zapped my confidence and I've not even driven partly-dressed for a year+
Each day when I wake up, I yearn to dress, like a part of me that's missing, but never do it
I felt comfortable being near the city where I could blend in
Now, I live in a tiny village with vigilant neighbors
Everywhere I go, even including a mall 25 miles away, I keep encountering people I know
I also 'sink' inside at the effort it takes to apply makeup so carefully, etc, etc, to simply be the real me, but knowing that many in society hate CDs and ridicule us
There's no way I can openly CD at work or the supermarket. Opportunities at home are limited as we've always got tradespeople coming round to do work on the house. Most of my female clothes are still in storage.
Whenever I plan to dress up and be myself, something always happens to get in the way, so I then pour a glass of wine to numb my sadness, which I know isn't good.