You deserve to be treated better. Period. It breaks my heart to read your recent posts.
I would try everything in my power to get her into couple's counseling. If she refuses, I would calmly tell her; "Since you refuse to deal with this, I think we should take a time out for a week. It may be good to have some time apart". I would then use that time to 1) dress as much as you want 2) let her realize how much she needs you or 2) how happier she is without you. Either way as difficult as the road will be, you can move on with your life. With her or without her.
Please know that this is what I would do. Everyone's situation is different and mileage may vary as Ellen just said.
