when my wife first found out it wasn't pretty and it certainly wasn't the only thing wrong with our marriage. She stayed for a variety of reasons and I worked on me. Mucho therapy etc and today I feel I am a much better person. More importantly I am happy with me for the first time in my life. The issue is that includes crossdressing.
Now I love my wife allot, true love. I think I have accepted many things for her, I am the main breadwinner, participate in all family stuff, help around the house and supportive in many, many ways. This is my thing! at my age, kids are HS and college, I think I deserve to be accepted for me too. Isn't that what love is? no matter what? Just my thoughts and clearly everyone situation is different, but for me , if my wife said no more, I would actually leave..it would be devastating but I have to be happy too.