To give some background to this question.
Our social group has changed venues , the old one was a small hotel and conference centre, on the Friday nights we more or less had the run of the place unless there was another function on. Most people wore what they liked unless if it was a theme night where we were encouraged to join in with appropriate or at times inappropriate outfits. The new venue is a much larger hotel, our first meeting there is a ball to celebrate one of the founder member's 60th birthday . I have opted to stay over so I can have a drink or two , my first choice of dress is a strapless gown and I'm in two minds to wear it .
The problem I have is it isn't something a woman of my age would possibly wear , and I will be walking through the hotel to get to the function room . So should I settle the dilemma and wear something more inline with my age or just go with it .
My main question is being slightly over dressed is something the public expects a CDer to do ?
I know from experience most women would tell you to go for it, but that's mainly ones outside the family so they have nothing to lose . I also think there's another aspect to it, women appear to enjoy CDers, partly because we have the confidence to wear something a little risque , they may think twice themselves but to see someone taking the chance and going for it gives them a real buzz and someone to have a little fun with .
Up to now this hasn't bothered me , maybe it's getting over the change of venue that's the problem. I have to say the whole evening is full of unanswered questions, I would like to drive from home dressed casual to check in but my family aren't committing themselves to how much time I will have . I would also like to dress for breakfast and drive home dressed but my wife hasn't decided if she is working or not . I also have to pack my overnight requirements which I can't do with other people about.
You read so many times here of building ourselves up to the chance of an enjoyable time out but sometimes all you can see are a bunch of spanners in the works !! Those not in a DADT situation don't know how lucky you are !!