Why doe's everything always happen to me?

[Allisa]

Call it Karma or Kismet but as I was getting out of my truck and unloading some items I heard my(male) name being called by the woman(widow) across the street and when turning to see, she was approaching me in my driveway with a potted plant and talking the whole time. As we met half way and in full view for all to see, not one inkling from her about what she was thinking as I was dressed in a dress with all the trimmings from head to toe. Now I'm sure she has seen me coming and going but now face to face, the reason this meeting was significant is that her husband had been sick and undergoing a new form of chemo so when he did venture outside I would go over to check in as to how he was doing, no other "men" in the neighborhood would bother with him, not that I know of anyway, I was always in male mode and dress when interacting with him so the family only knew me as male so when she had no adverse reaction to me I was kind of taken aback for a second, I was expecting a million questions and even a laugh or chuckle. Now that I've had time to think maybe her one son who is in the medical profession had given her an education on gender variances after seeing me going in and out. Then as quickly as it had started it was over and she went back to her gardening as if nothing out of the ordinary had happened. Here is a pic of me as I was and still am dressed.

[Dana44]

LOL Alissa,. She probably saw you a million times as you. So she was just checking in with you. She likely knows and probably appreciate it when you go see her husband as a male.

[Lana Mae]

Hmmm! Sounds something like acceptance to me! LOL Hugs Lana Mae

[suzanne]

"Not a big deal" seems to have been her response to your dressing. In my ideal world, that's how everyone treats us and I think we're slowly moving in that direction.

[Teresa]

Lisa,
Looks like you might need to swap that lovely dress for a nurses one the problem is then you might get half the street wanting medical attention.

OK I assume when asked you will g across dressed if asked now ?

[Rogina B]

Not a big deal unless you make it one. Same person in different packaging.

[Trione]

She probably didn't give a darn about how you were dressed, she most likely is grateful that someone cares to check on her husbands condition. As we get older we seen to be more accepting of what others see as odd.

[Tracii G]

What happened to the potted plant?

[Leslie Mary S]

I think it is a delightful outfit and a superb presentation.

[docrobbysherry]

"She must have had a million questions."

Didn't u have at least one, Allisa?

[paulaprimo]

great story Allisa. it's wonderful to know that there are still decent people
out there that are not that shallow and reward the kindness and caring of
a neighbor regardless of how they look or are dressed!

and BTW, you look awesome!!

[Becky Blue]

The fact that you acted 'normally' and didn't panic probably helped, perhaps she has been you before too. Nice story, thanks for sharing it.

[bridget thronton]

I think you look great - hope your neighbor continues to treat you well

[alwayshave]

Allisa, what a great story of acceptence.

[mbmeen12]

1st you look lovely, but a super story...life goes on.

[Angie G]

What a great place the world this would be if everyone was like your neighbor. I really like that dress Allisa.
Angie

[Karen RHT]

Perhaps she just needs a bit of time to adjust, and will let you know how pretty your dress is and how well you wear it in the not too distant future Allisa.


Karen

[karrin]

nice dress Allisa,looks comfy too, be safe karrin

[Stephanie47]

Firstly, you look absolutely lovely. Secondly, your compassion has properly been noted by her. The plant was obviously an expression of thankfulness. Unfortunately, it is too typical of many men to avoid those who are terminally ill. Many men seem not to know how to handle illness. I think your neighbor sees who you are without regard to what you wear.

[Jaylyn]

I believe it just shows that you are a caring individual and have fully demonstrated its not the clothes it's the person inside that really matters. I would bet your neighbor might feel just like you and appreciates your compassion for her husband. Yes the world would be a lot better off if every one accepted good people no matter the outside clothing.

[donnalee]

When my SO finally succumbed to her Alzheimers I was quite upset that I received no notes or cards, but thankful to those who had been kind to her as her condition worsened, so good for you; you're doing the right thing, being a good neighbor and it's nice to hear it was reciprocated.

[CherylFlint]

The thing is, the basic thing is, the down-to-brass-tacks thing is, we're all people no matter what design or color cloth we cover ourselves with.

[lingerieLiz]

Nice jester for you to visit with her husband and her to accept you however you are dressed.

I think neighbors can adjust to CDs. My neighbors know and I've answered the door in obvious fem clothes without them being shocked. Funny how accepting people are when you just a good guy that helps when needed.

[Rachelle70]

You look lovely and it appears you have a nonjudgmental friend!