Jeri Ann and Tracii have both hit on something that many of us grapple with. For some of us, the stress (for lack of a better term) that is induced in those close to us (family), or important to us (employers, clients), by our expression of femininity is a thing that matters. And it should, because those people and their feelings matter. For all too many of us, the "feelings" of everyone else matter as well. A while back, I told the forum about the morning that Jeri Ann and I spent in the nail salon, and how one GG customer appeared to be somewhat aggrieved by my presence. At that moment, I had a choice. I could have let that woman's scowl spoil my day. Let's face it, all gender identity complications aside, the feeling you get from a look like that is never nice, but she didn't know me, didn't employ me, didn't matter. So instead of cringing, I chose to try and bring some light into the situation. With suitable chagrin, I'll point out that it didn't work, but that's not the point. The point is that through simply recognizing that her negative feelings didn't have to affect me, I was empowered to take control and try to affect her in a positive way. BTW, both Kandi and Jeri Ann have shared that it is a smile that will make the difference, and I thank them again for sharing that.
We do live in a free society. There's not law against what we do. Most people don't care or are mildly amused by the "guy in a dress". They don't matter. Those who might act forcefully to having their delicate sensibilities assaulted by a male presenting a feminine appearance are few enough that I choose to ignore them as statistically insignificant. Yes, the numbers change depending on when and where you are, but so does the threat of random acts of violence, robbery, automobile collision, and being struck by lightening. I choose regularly to ignore all those "threats", regardless of what I'm wearing.