Quote Originally Posted by Nikkilovesdresses View Post
Oh dear, Sandy- I'm so sorry to hear that your daughter tried to harm herself.

I take it that coming out is a non-starter... because it might help your daughter to come to terms with her turmoil, and the stakes are clearly very high.

I do think it's important to accept that your daughter's happiness (and mental wellbeing) is more important than any family heritage, and there's a likelihood that if your daughter can have her way on the name issue, that in the future she may relax again about that.

But it's vital that right now she gets as much support from a united family as is possible, and as responsible parents it's you who needs to change.
I would advise against coming out until after the crisis is over.
The last thing that Sandy's child needs now is MORE emotional turmoil/uncertainty/confusion.

What is needed is understanding, acceptance and support. No matter the motives, coming out is unlikely to be perceived as supportive by the child. Quite probably as just the opposite.

Just my :2c: