Finding and making more friends

[Kassie]

Do any of you have other CD friends, or friends who help you out? Even though I'm in a happy, healthy relationship sometimes I wish I had more female friends. I'm not out, but sometimes I think about what it would be like to have a girl's night with my girlfriend and her friends. I also kind of wish I had somebody to help me with clothes or give me fashion advice. My girlfriend has noticed I've "started enjoying" clothes shopping more with her, and part of the reason is it gives me a chance to browse the racks myself! lol! I'm not as self-conscious about on-lookers if I'm helping look for her something lol.

[Rachael Leigh]

Just a loner here, no friends or GF of any kind.

[DIANEF]

Yes, me too Leigh, I do so wish I could share this thing I do with some one, one day maybe......

[Jaylyn]

No CD friends except I do converse with a few on here. I'm not out and about when dressed. My wife used to be a big help in my dressing but she has recently kind of turned against it somewhat. She prefers I wouldn't now after many years helping and even buying clothes for Jaylyn. We are getting older so maybe that has something to do with it. Who knows. I have a couple on here that I've visited with on the phone. One that I have even have visited live on the computer. Dana44 and I visited some until her box got full and I can't message her anymore.... Empty some of your messages Dana... Lol

[Tamsin Secret]

Hi Kassie,

I too wish I could share this with my wife in the way you suggest. It is a Miss Secret bucket list thing to have 'a night out with the girls' with my wife along for the ride. Alas this is a long way off if ever!

From posts I've read on here it is worth looking for local meets from various tg/TS/cd social sites.

I haven't yet but if I ever come out the closet believe I would benefit from something like this. They tend to be monthly/bi weekly and could be a way of meeting someone new?

[Bobbi46]

Yes, one day I decided to tell a friend (who is lesbian), mainly because I could not keep my life a secret any more. Having told her we have become close friends, she comes to me for lunch or dinner and I go to her house for the same , dressed on all occasions. In a way to go to out, to someone elsa dressed who understands me is a great help.

[Teri Ray]

I am lucky to be able to share my dressing desires with my wife. I do shop with her as well and we both enjoy looking at clothes. Other than my wife and the folks on this site I have met a few other dressers and attended a tri-ess meeting. On occasion is is nice to have someone to discuss this passion with.

[deebra]

Kassie, when clothes shopping with your girlfriend have you ever thought of saying these are really soft and nice, would you be freaked out if I bought a pair and tried them on to see if I like them? It would either open the door to CDing or slam it shut like in hell no, women only. If it's the latter maybe you should start looking for another girl friend.

[Kassie]

Kassie, when clothes shopping with your girlfriend have you ever thought of saying these are really soft and nice, would you be freaked out if I bought a pair and tried them on to see if I like them? It would either open the door to CDing or slam it shut like in hell no, women only. If it's the latter maybe you should start looking for another girl friend.

My girlfriend is aware that I wear panties and tights/pantyhose/leggings. But I did do something similar to what you suggested in terms of trying items on. One time in Target, she was trying on yoga pants. She was in a playful/fun mood that day, so I was kind of like, "I totally want to see how I look in those" and she was kind of like, "yeah, ok. maybe it'll actually give you a butt"

I've been taking it slow, though. She is fine with the panties, but I mix things up sometimes and wear boxers/boxer briefs because it makes her happy (plus they feel tight like if you made shorts from tights/leggings ).

[LeannS]

Kassie
I go shopping with my wife and I enjoy it. She knows I dress but we keep it at that. I f I find something I like I will come back at a later time.
And no I don't have anyone to share this with I wish I did to give me some fashion sense and the how to's of makeup and such youtube can only do so much lol

Leann

[jhasmine]

I would like to make some cd friends in my area but maybe I should start with normal friends. All of my friends are online gaming friends who do know I CD IRL but none of them live close to me. None of my HS friends or childhood friends bothered to stay in contact with my and my old Best friend got married and his wife never liked me so he dont talk to me or come by anymore. its been like 6 - 7 years since I seen or talked to him. Who needs someone that can be swayed by another so easily. but anyway. Not sure if this is ok but I live in RI.

Thanks

[Sarah Doepner]

One of the best things I did was get involved in a local support group. I have friends who I can visit with or ask questions of. Over the years I've met some who are just dressing occasionally to some who have transitioned. The full range of others experience is there for me to draw from and regardless of my desire to go out or not, there is someone who I can share the experience with. While this forum is a great resource, don't be afraid to reach out to find someone nearby and in real life to visit with. Being alone with your thoughts and questions too much of the time can become a problem.

[Lululover]

I'm happily married but dont have many friends. I put my career first and unfortunately lost alot of childhood friends. I seem to gravitate around women more and really enjoy being with my wife's friends. Unfortunately, in today's society, men can't be friends with women without some kind of sexual innuendo. And really, I have no interest in that! I just like being in their company. I would love to go shopping with them and feel hurt when I'm not invited. If I was ever invited, then their husbands would be jealous. I get it!
I also tried reaching out to some local girls on here, but nobody responds. This is a tough affliction! Never really understood!

[Majella St Gerard]

I have some friends that are either CD or Transgender and I usually see them when out at a club. I don't hang out with them on a daily basis or go out shopping in a pack. I would rather go out shopping and play dress up with a GG.

[Jean. Ann]

I have wished for friends , but they are hard to find and harder to
keep contact with here in the Rolling Plains ofTexas

Jean Ann

[Teresa]

Kassie,
Yes it can happen, I know we can make good forum friends but meeting face to face is so good, It took me a while to take an offer of joining a social group but I have no regrets at all. To get out and meet others can change your outlook on CDing. To me it put meaning into the clothes, putting outfits together to go out is so much more enjoyable. We have a great time when we meet up at the hotel, it also helps to come to terms your dressing , the question of passing fades away when you meet members of the general public, most of the fears are in your head , most people don't take any notice .
If you want it to happen it can ,the first step is find someone possibly through the forum and arrange to meet in drab, and take it from there.

To take up Majella's point, many of the members are accompanied by wives or partners, I spend as much time talking with them. At our Xmas party we shared the room with other groups so I danced with the GGs while their husbands propped up the bar . We also have a lovely SA who brings a selection of clothes from M&Co, so we can shop as well . I have to say it beats being stuck in the closet or hiding behind your curtains worrying if your neighours can see you and going into a panic when you hear your wife drive home .

[SusanCACD]

One would think it would be easy here in California, in the SF bay area even, but i think what holds us bake is ourselves...But I do wish I had a friend or two that understood and appreciated what I am and am going through.
Susan

[Sallee]

Since i don't getout much I don't have many CD friends that I have met in person. I have a fair amount of guy friends but no CD friends there are some I see all the time when I do go out but to go just hang out just doesn't happen. We CD's are pretty much secret creatures

[Roxanne]

Since recently joining, I have tried reaching out to other forum members in my area of SC, but no luck yet. I can't locate a support group nearby. I have a number of friends, but I'm not out to any of them. I think it will start to become obvious sooon.

[Jean 103]

It can be done. You need to get out , meet and talk to people. It's your life get out and live it. I have been out for like a couple of years now. I felt I had to come out as I was becoming know as Jean. It is not all easy, but this is life and at least for me hard to predict. I have been accepted as one of the girls, so most all my friends are women, including my BFF. Coming to terms with and accepting that I am transgender was really the first step.

[Melissa Rose]

Finding and being active in a local support group is often one of the best ways to meet others. It is worth a 1-2 hour drive if needed due to location. If there is not a local group, start one yourself. It can be as simple as starting a Meet-Up group and building from there.

If you wait for others to find and come to you, it rarely happens. Being proactive is the only way it is going to happen. I met my one of my best friends, who is also a member of this forum, through a local group. It took both of us to find and come to the meetings for us to meet and become friends. Stop only wishing and start more doing.

[Teresa]

Melissa,
For those of us how have the need to be out I couldn't agree with you more . If you get the chance to meet others don't pass it up, they may not offer again.
I consider myself lucky to be offered the chance I don't regret it for one moment .

[Barbara Jo]

Just a loner here, no friends or GF of any kind.

Same here....
At my age (almost 70) all my friends have either died or move away .
Then it's hard to make new friends as most think that I must be very weird to have no real friends..... or family... particularity in this day and age where people are more friendly to online "acquaintances" than they are their next door neighbor.

[Tabitha Storm]

I just went out for the very first time in May and I am kicking myself for not doing it sooner. I went to a safe event, Viva Wildside, in Vegas where I knew there would be many more girls. Everyone treated me so nicely, even the uber and cab drivers were cool. It was so much fun.
I would recommend that if it is a possibility for you. Otherwise try to find a local support group. I am very lucky, when I started dating my gf I told her I liked to dress. She read up on it and accepted it. We now shop together and she buys me surprises from time to time.
i have found it is much more accepted with upfront honesty than with waiting to tell them, but I digress.

Find a group, find some friends and set yourself free.

[Maria_mtf]

I don't really have many friends at all, my best mate, few from college I still meet. I really want a gg friend to talk to (about anything), I only really have one from work but we rarely socialise outside of work and it would never be alone, so we are just work friends really. A CD friend would be great but like people have said I would need to reach out, it won't magically happen.

I wonder about looking for GG friends nearby online but it's risky in so many ways, wiife probably wouldn't like it, they could spill your secret if they didn't accept it and really how many women would want to start a new friendship with a happily married crossdresser!

You are welcome to pm me to chat and for advice but I warn you I have litterally zero fashion sense!