I'm trying to reconcile how I want to define myself and want your honest opinions. For almost all of my life since a young boy I have thought of myself as a transvestite (1980's) and then as a crossdresser (90's-2010's) but since then I've wondered whether or not I'm technically transgendered. I've also learned about the term "transvestic fetishism" since coming to this website.
Simply put I know this has been hotly debated and I'm not looking for debates one way or the other, just what each of you would classify me as based on my description below. I want to take in the variety of opinions so please no one should feel like they need to defend their positions.
This is how I would describe myself: I have been dressing since around age 10 and started by wearing my sister and mother's clothing. From the very first time I wore female clothes I would get sexually excited and masturbate. This continues to today, some 40 years later, but not every time. At the same time I also find great comfort is simply dressing at home complete with wig, breast forms, and make up. I also have a great desire to go out dressed in a comfortable and unprovocative manner. I also have a strong desire to pass as female and to go about a normal day out and about as a woman. I do not have any same-sex inclinations nor any desire to transition. I love to underdress when possible. Finally, I'm happily married going on 29 years and my wife has known since before we were married. She is DADT but will help me buy clothing when I ask.
So, in your individual opinions how would you describe me... crossdresser, transvestite, transgendered, transvestic fetishism, etc? I'm also very interested in whether you would consider being a crossdresser as included under the umbrella of transgendered.