I thought that the first time of being "discovered" would be it and slowly people would get to know and that would be it and life would trickle on as though nothing had happened. But yesterday evening was to prove the opposite. In or village every year we have celebration similar to harvest festival and it is dedicated as St jeans day, we have free pate, sausages lots of bread and also free beer and wine all paid for by our council. the end of the evening is celebrated with a bonfire and we walk round it hands linked. at the end of all this I said goodbye to some of my ex pat friends and walked away to my car, not getting very far when I was stopped by another friend who said in a bit of a loud voice "before you go I've got a question, in private" taking my arm and moving us away but to what I considered still too close for whatever it was he had to say to which he said" someone tells me you buy women's clothes and wear make up!!" I was stunned as to how he knew because I know lives well away from my hamlet and our village. With other people within earshot as I thought I asked him who told you and he replied a bit sneeringly ah can't tell you can I which got me a bit wound up so told him no I don't and walked away.
Which in hindsight was the wrong thing to do as it turned out because I decided to phone him and up front him about myself. HE WAS NICE AS PIE. when I told him I wanted to put the matter straight and got the response of it makes no difference to me about how you want to live its cool with me.
I went on to explain the reasons why some are gay some are not and that research had proved that it was genetically linked. He said oh know about that we got some in the family that are the same!.
So I thanked him for his honesty and told him that I felt I had to be the same with him.
I was genuinely surprised but greatly comforted by what he said to me. So in the future if someone asks am I this or that instead of hiding behind a smoke screen I will come out straight with it to whoever asks.
It just goes to show that not everything need to be the disaster it was first thought of!