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    Will someone you know recognize you while en femme?

    Question for you ladies. Would someone you know well recognize you while en femme? Assuming of course that they were unaware of your CDing. If not an absolute yes or no, then what percentage? Just curious.
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    Hell-o Iris,
    If you take a look in the pic gallery section, in the stickies
    at the top of the page there is a boy/girl mode thread.
    Judge for yourself how hard it might be to recognize one of us.
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    Hello Kristyn, Thanks for the tip. i will check out that thread. Kisses to you too!

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    I think 50% for me.
    I am tall and have big thighs.
    Plus my voice, wish I could change it.
    If I stayed in the back and did not stand 10-20%.
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    <1% chance of being recognized. I dressed up as a Pirate to a party once wearing a wig and people couldn't figure out it was me.

    Aside from that I have been cursed and blessed with a nice butt worthy of being stared at.


    Though being a tall "girl" with no breast would likely give me away as a crossdresser though there probably isn't too much correlation between body growth to chest growth

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    This is a pretty common question, and IMO it has more to do with context than what you actually look like.

    If it's a crowded street, I bet I could pass friends in boymode and they wouldn't even notice me. If it was a small pub that I frequented and they could clearly see my face, I doubt they would not notice.

    As for girlmode, I feel like it has a little more anonymity as it removes that context. They aren't even thinking of you when they see a girl, or a "man wearing a dress". However if it was a location that you frequent, or you with with mutual friends, or worst case with someone associate with you such as an SO, then the chances of being recognised increase.
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    My daughter and son in law were 4 feet away looked my way and walked right on past me.

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    I'm 99.9% sure nobody would know me

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    I don't think anyone would recognize me. At least my fiancee states I'm not recognizable.
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    So I obviously cannot say whether YOU will be recognised or not because I do not know you, or your friends/family...
    BUT I can give you some first hand anecdotes that may help you...
    One memorable Saturday I was in the mall with my spouse. The place was PUMPING... In the course of one afternoon I walked past THREE work colleagues. I actually brushed shoulders with one of them, we were that close in the pharmacy. Not one of them recognised me.
    One night when on business in Cape Town I sat down at a table in a restaurant. I ordered a drink and started sipping it... I looked up and sitting at the next table was a work colleague. Someone I was going to spend the whole of the next day with... He was facing me and must have seen me... He did not recognise me...
    My spouse was catching up on Facebook on her iPad... My 4 year old daughter walked in and asked her 'who is that lady?' It was me... no recognition...
    Finally we (my spouse and I) were at the mall last Monday morning. It was VERY quiet... Hardly a soul there. We were walking from one shop to another when we bumped into a former work colleague. One who we have entertained out our house and who we have socialised with a bit... I just carried on walking. She didnt even notice me I don't think, let alone recognise me...
    So your chances of being recognised are low imho

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    My adult children see my Amy pictures, mixed in with family pictures all the time. They have never said who is that or is that you Dad ? I doubt if your neighbor saw you at the Mall dressed they would know it was you. Now here is a footnote to that statement.

    Note: If they see you in your car they know, I am sure it will raise a question, as to who was driving your car. If you have your dog with you would be another give away. Be careful in these areas, because it does not take much for people to figure it out.

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    If anyone I know were to see me more than a passing glance, I'm guessing at about 99% certainty that I'd be recognized because I don't wear a wig.
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    they will read me as a man in a dress but not recognize me, I've had many experiences encountering people who know me in one mode and don't recognize me in the other. Lotta fun actually.

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    Depends on you, depends on them, depends on the environment, depends on the extent to which you dress (wigs seem to make you almost unrecognizable, maybe because people don't expect men's hairstyle and color to change,) depends on other physical cues you may have and to some extent depends on what you mean by the question. It's more probable that they'd recognize they're looking at a crossdresser than that they'd recognize the crossdresser is specifically you. I've heard lots of stories of people not being recognized while out crossdressed.

    There's really only one way to find out.
    I am not a woman; I don't want to be a woman; I don't want to be mistaken for a woman.
    I am not a man; I don't want to be a man; I don't want to be mistaken for a man.
    I am a transgender person. And I'm still figuring out what that means.

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    I think I would be pretty recognizable although maybe it's just me. When I look at myself in girl mode I don't get that OMG! moment, I still largely see myself. Maybe I'll post to the boy/girl thread and see what others think.

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    The only person who I ever showed a picture of Diane to, apart from on this forum, was a work colleague. She believed me when I told her it was my wife.
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    Unlikely. My femme self looks 15 to 20 years younger, and has a less ruddy complexion and no bags under her eyes. And a full head of hair plus female curves plus a confident female attitude and voice goes a long way to making the connection difficult to make.

    A lesbian GG friend of my femme side that's known Ceera for over a year, and who had never seen me as a male but knows I am Trans, recently commented that she doubted she would recognize me if we passed on the street and I was in male mode. I showed her a pic of me in a business suit and presenting male, and her reaction was "Oh, hell no! I would have walked right by you! Please don't be offended, but my mind would have read you as 'straight white male' and I would have not recognized you at all."

    A GG neighbor who had only seen me in male mode didn't realize it was me in female mode when I answered the door en-femme and invited her inside to talk about a fence replacement project, until we had chatted for several minutes in my home, and then she saw my daughter walk into the room and realized she wasn't talking to her male neighbor's daughter, as she had assumed. She knew that the male owner of the home was a widowed guy who lived with his daughter, so if the other person was that daughter, then the older 'lady' had to be... OH! (She was quite accepting, once she knew and we chatted about it.)

    My sister found my female side FB page and put it together, but likely only because of the amount of information on that page. She knew the name as one I had used for a female gaming character, and the birth date and city I lived in matched. But I suspect that if she had seen me on the street and wasn't expecting her brother to be there, she would not have recognized me.
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    For most of us I think 90% unlikely. I went in and purchased a new wig, went and changed and came back dressed about an hour later and they did not recognize me until I spoke. Can't change the voice.
    Mind you I 6' tall and almost 300lbs.
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    possibly..

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    Years ago I went to KMart store in the middle of the work as Jessica . I saw my next door neighbor(wife ) in the card section . She glanced at me for a second and continue on with her business . I walked pass her and she did not even give me a second look . She walked pass me when I tried a pair of pumps , again , no reaction from her . I don't think your friends or neighbors would recognize you unless they see you in a familiar setting , your own car , house , with your SO .

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    It would depend on how well I did my hair and makeup. I have walked right up to a co-worker once when dressed on Halloween. He didn't recognize me until I spoke, and even then I could tell he was unsure until I told him who I was.

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    Whether or not someone you know would recognize while en femme depends a great deal on your presentation. I have been seen many times by people who know my male self and have even spoken to a few and have never been recognized.
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    While en femme I was would say yes people would recognize me. However, I have had professional makeovers by good quality makeup artists and I did not recognize me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mickitv View Post
    While en femme I was would say yes people would recognize me. However, I have had professional makeovers by good quality makeup artists and I did not recognize me.
    Agree... quality of makeup will be the biggest factor in getting recognized or not.

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    If I were talking and didn't see them first they might have a clue.
    Otherwise I think anyone would be hard pressed to recognize me under my makeup and wig.

    If I were out with my wife they would recognize her and that would clue them in, but we generally don't stay that close while shopping and have little signals should we spot someone we know.
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