Will someone you know recognize you while en femme?

[Iris Tse]

Question for you ladies. Would someone you know well recognize you while en femme? Assuming of course that they were unaware of your CDing. If not an absolute yes or no, then what percentage? Just curious.

[Hell on Heels]

Hell-o Iris,
If you take a look in the pic gallery section, in the stickies
at the top of the page there is a boy/girl mode thread.
Judge for yourself how hard it might be to recognize one of us.
Much Love,
Kristyn

[Iris Tse]

Hello Kristyn, Thanks for the tip. i will check out that thread. Kisses to you too!

-Iris

[prene]

I think 50% for me.
I am tall and have big thighs.
Plus my voice, wish I could change it.
If I stayed in the back and did not stand 10-20%.
Prene

[redtea]

<1% chance of being recognized. I dressed up as a Pirate to a party once wearing a wig and people couldn't figure out it was me.

Aside from that I have been cursed and blessed with a nice butt worthy of being stared at.


Though being a tall "girl" with no breast would likely give me away as a crossdresser though there probably isn't too much correlation between body growth to chest growth

[Curiosity666]

This is a pretty common question, and IMO it has more to do with context than what you actually look like.

If it's a crowded street, I bet I could pass friends in boymode and they wouldn't even notice me. If it was a small pub that I frequented and they could clearly see my face, I doubt they would not notice.

As for girlmode, I feel like it has a little more anonymity as it removes that context. They aren't even thinking of you when they see a girl, or a "man wearing a dress". However if it was a location that you frequent, or you with with mutual friends, or worst case with someone associate with you such as an SO, then the chances of being recognised increase.

[TrishaTX]

I think more women would recognize me then men. No-one would think I Crossdress , so that would throw them as well.

[NancySue]

My wife doesn't think so 😉 She checks me over and may make a suggestion or two. I follow her advice always. Sometimes, I like to dress a little more...makeup, heels, hose, etc., which we both feel would attract. We live in a small town where everyone's business is known. Discovery would not be good. We are careful when we go out, usually out of town to a shopping center to shop, dine and see a movie. I've seen a few people I knew...from a distance..so far, so good.

[jazzysherry]

I came out as CD to a friend early last year and we agreed to meet for dinner a few days later at a restaurant in London with me dressed. He was running late so I took my place at the table. When he arrived - he couldn't find me!! I had to frantically wave to show him where I was.

I fly quite a bit as Sherry and on a couple of recent trips to and from a conference I found myself on the same flights a many people who know the other me. I even walked right past one when leaving the loo - nothing said and I can only assume they really don't see anything.

[natalie edwards]

I'm 99.9% sure nobody would know me

[alwayshave]

I don't think anyone would recognize me. At least my fiancee states I'm not recognizable.

[Danitgirl1]

So I obviously cannot say whether YOU will be recognised or not because I do not know you, or your friends/family...
BUT I can give you some first hand anecdotes that may help you...
One memorable Saturday I was in the mall with my spouse. The place was PUMPING... In the course of one afternoon I walked past THREE work colleagues. I actually brushed shoulders with one of them, we were that close in the pharmacy. Not one of them recognised me.
One night when on business in Cape Town I sat down at a table in a restaurant. I ordered a drink and started sipping it... I looked up and sitting at the next table was a work colleague. Someone I was going to spend the whole of the next day with... He was facing me and must have seen me... He did not recognise me...
My spouse was catching up on Facebook on her iPad... My 4 year old daughter walked in and asked her 'who is that lady?' It was me... no recognition...
Finally we (my spouse and I) were at the mall last Monday morning. It was VERY quiet... Hardly a soul there. We were walking from one shop to another when we bumped into a former work colleague. One who we have entertained out our house and who we have socialised with a bit... I just carried on walking. She didnt even notice me I don't think, let alone recognise me...
So your chances of being recognised are low imho

[Amy Lynn3]

My adult children see my Amy pictures, mixed in with family pictures all the time. They have never said who is that or is that you Dad ? I doubt if your neighbor saw you at the Mall dressed they would know it was you. Now here is a footnote to that statement.

Note: If they see you in your car they know, I am sure it will raise a question, as to who was driving your car. If you have your dog with you would be another give away. Be careful in these areas, because it does not take much for people to figure it out.

[Sara Jessica]

If anyone I know were to see me more than a passing glance, I'm guessing at about 99% certainty that I'd be recognized because I don't wear a wig.

[Jackie7]

they will read me as a man in a dress but not recognize me, I've had many experiences encountering people who know me in one mode and don't recognize me in the other. Lotta fun actually.

[Pat]

Depends on you, depends on them, depends on the environment, depends on the extent to which you dress (wigs seem to make you almost unrecognizable, maybe because people don't expect men's hairstyle and color to change,) depends on other physical cues you may have and to some extent depends on what you mean by the question. It's more probable that they'd recognize they're looking at a crossdresser than that they'd recognize the crossdresser is specifically you. I've heard lots of stories of people not being recognized while out crossdressed.

There's really only one way to find out.

[Rachael Leigh]

I've always believed nobody would know me unless they interacted with me close up. I don't 100 percent pass but I do look
just different enough that they might think I look like someone but I think maybe 30 percent chance they would know

[Elizabeth G]

I think I would be pretty recognizable although maybe it's just me. When I look at myself in girl mode I don't get that OMG! moment, I still largely see myself. Maybe I'll post to the boy/girl thread and see what others think.

[Elizabeth G]

Now I'm not so sure about my earlier statement about being really recognizable. I sort of had the reverse situation happen to me. I was in drab tonight at my favorite consignment boutique when in walked the makeup artist who has done makeovers for me three times, most recently was two days in a row about a week and a half ago. She has never seen me in drab before. She has seen me without makeup but otherwise fully dressed. She walked right past me within two feet and didn't recognize me at all, so maybe I'll do better than I originally thought I would when it eventually happens.

[CynthiaD]

i doubt it. This has happened to me, and they never gave me a second glance.

[Peggie Lee]

I came out to my weekend coffee group at the local Mac D's, and they were surprised all right but were also very accepting. In the past there is one fellow that comes in and if seeing me will turn around leave, this morning he came over sat down with us and chatted for 25 minutes as if I were someone new to the group, finally one of the others asked him why he sit down with me there, the look on his face was priceless, he just got up and left, it certainly made my weekend.
Passing for 25 minutes while talking to someone that doesn't like you tells me I am making good progress on my transition.

[nikkiwindsor]

I'll share a little story and you can draw your own conclusions. Many years ago, my daughter, who at the time was in her early teens (and as with almost all adolescents, full of curiosity and questions), stumbled across some pics on our home computer of me en femme. Fortunately, the pictures were not taken inside our home or any other place frequented or would be recognized by my daughter. She asked my wife (her mom) who the woman in the pictures was and my wife worked hard to keep a straight face while explaining that the pics were of someone who was a family friend. You can imagine the scolding (putting it too mildly b/c she was seething) I received from my wife.

[Shelly Preston]

The simple answer is some will and some wont.

The vast majority wont recognize you unless you are really close up and they know quite well.

It happened to a friend of mine when we were out having dinner. She was asked if she was formerly known as ********. However the person asking did not know me but they should have.

[Sarah Doepner]

This is a reverse side to the question. I've been going to DLV for a long time and used to just spend 2 or 3 days there. When I first spent 5 days I had to take a day off to give my face a chance to recover from the close shaves. I still wanted to go out and went to a mall where others were getting makeovers. When I went to compliment a friend I had to bring out my name tag so she understood I wasn't a total stranger. That's happened a couple of other times when I've encountered someone who has only known me as Sarah and I end up being there as Dave.

When I dress and do my makeup I always keep that in mind, but have the big and tall thing going as well, so it's possible I'd be recognized if they had more than a few moments to look at me. I haven't seen anyone who knows me when I've been out dressed, so that question has not been tested yet. I'll let you know when it happens.

[DIANEF]

The only person who I ever showed a picture of Diane to, apart from on this forum, was a work colleague. She believed me when I told her it was my wife.