Do not steal or borrow feminine clothing, buy your own. I have heard this statement from my wife, my therapist, and on the forums. Yet I was doing the laundry and noticed my favorite purple bra in the hamper. Hmm, I washed it, folded it and 3 days later it was in the hamper again. I finally asked my wife of she knew why it keeps ending up in the hamper. Her response, it's the most comfortable bra she had every worn. Double standards? She has clarified to buy my own clothes which I may wear when our kids are not home, just don't wear hers. I don't know whether to buy her own or borrow one of hers?