To put you at speed: I'm in a DADT situation. My wife has never caught me dressed and only found out about my dressing by finding a picture of me one time. I keep it all in to myself and never lead anything on. Today out of the blue my child had painted his nails. You could just see in his eyes this was no accident when asked why. She wants answers and for me to do something so he understands what he did. I really don't have a stand to be against it as I would be a hypocrite. What would you do?