I had an odd thought this morning, and I'd like to hear what you ladies think, OK?
I have a semi-supportive SO - coupled with an odd DADT situation.
Short background: I was once pursuing full transition, but "dropped out" for a number of reasons. After that I found/married my current wife. She knows my history and while not exactly supportive, we've reached a compromise. I wear panties full time and nighties every night. It's OK if I lounge around the house this way, but anything more is DADT. I'm OK with this arrangement and we get along nicely.
Now the question:
I'm beginning to wonder, did I chose her - and stay in my current situation - BECAUSE of her limitations on my dressing and not in spite of them?
Here's my thinking: I accepted that going fully femme is not a real option for me, but the urge is still there. Without the anchor of stability that her love for me provides, I might be tempted to pursue a goal that I know (in my head, not in my heart/soul) that I can't achieve. It would be oh-so-easy to slip into the pink fog, never to come back out again. What holds me safely on the fringes of the mist it that I am warm/safe/loved where I am. I get to express my feminine self at home in the presence of the one I love, but I know that anything more would hurt her - so I don't to there... though I must admit to a few gentle tugs on the rope from time to time.
So - what do you think?